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| Thu, 11-08-2007 - 11:13pm |
OK so this probably belongs in the off topic area. Anyway while perusing my school's web site I checked to see what was in the gallery for Interior Design. They change it from time to time. Wait... that piece looks familiar... I'm surprised to see this piece on the website. It's a piece I did last year that didn't even make it into the school's gallery- OK so I'll brag a little, a lot of my work ends up in the school's gallery. Anyway, the one online is a hand rendered floor plan for a project in which we had to mix antiques and modern furnishings in a design for a Modernist architecture icon- the Farnsworth House. There were two additional boards which had the drawings of the pieces of furniture that correspond to the numbers. I actually recognized my hand lettering first. Hope the link works: http://www.theartcenter.edu/GallerymenuID.html It's the second or third piece in the queue. The floor plan with the weird trees LOL
Ok to be on topic, M just dropped our plans for tonight. He was kind of in the dog house because he just cut me off on the phone yesterday because his daughter showed up. So I waited til I wasn't upset and told him today that I really don't appreciate when he does that. When he asked why, I replied "Would you just cut off any other of your friends for that reason? Would you end the conversation that abruptly with anyone else in the world for that reason? I'm starting to feel like I'm the Other Woman." His response? "I'm sorry, I didn't think about it that way. What can I do differently, what would you prefer I do in that situation?" We discussed the situation about his daughter, and again he's going to talk to her during their drive up to PHX for her soccer tournament. He tried to make time for me immediately because I think he's realized that the best way to sooth the ruffled fur of QB is with physical contact, but it's just not to be until our date Sat. We're both too busy creating the free time for Sat which is a weekend we have our kids. It's pretty rare for us to get together on kid weekends, so I really appreciate that he's making the time for the Ballet Gala. He is even willing to wear a tux even though it is blacktie optional.
QueenBun

Awesome work- it looks totally like something that I could NOT do LOL!
I did get to see it - that is impressive, QB! We could all use a little interior design help I am sure! Are you still going to school for that? Or out in the real world.
I agree with what you said about M's telephone habits and think you handled it in a most gracious manner. We do all train people how to treat us. Good stuff. A ballet gala sounds wonderful!
Hey! TOO COOL!
My S18, if he was ready for college, wanted to go to RISD. Awesome school, perfect fit for him, but he just doesn't have the drive right now to go through the competitive process to get in there. And yes, I'm still in school. I was looking at the web site to figure out realistically how long it'll be before I finish- Summer 2009 Yikes! With D3 and the custody stuff I can't go full time. Art Center is a small school so they only offer a class at one time of day and they don't offer all classes every term. I'm planning on doing my Internship Summer 2008, and I plan to continue to work from that point onward as D3 will go to school 5 days/week.
Yes, M is the guy with 2 daughters and the 12 yr old has issues with his dating. He knows he has to address the issue, and he has talked to her a few times, tried to get her to go to counseling and she refused. The big problem is that his X is the one telling the daughter she SHOULD be upset, that her dad is a selfish beast for having a GF. My armchair psychologist analysis is that D12 is: 1. taking a protector role with her mom, 2. still harbors the fantasy that Mom and Dad will get back together, 3. fears that she'll lose Dad to the GF. I don't push the issue, I figure as she gets older she'll be more concerned with her own romantic issues and start acting like her older sister and just joke with her dad about his dating. But when M, with the intent of not pushing her buttons and wanting to avoid a drama scene, treats me with less courtesy than he should we have a problem. When he cancels plans with me because his X calls him and wants him to pick up D12 from soccer or a friend's we have a problem. He also is sending the message that D12 gets to call the shots, which is not good for her. This issue is the one big problem in M and my relationship.
But at least I've learned to not let things slide when the situation upsets me. I don't confront him as much as inform him that his behavior has ticked me off. I'm always surprised when I don't get the defensive, rationalizing response I'm used to from 30 years with my Psycho X. M's response tells me he does value having me in his life, respects my feelings, wants to solve the problem so we can move forward. I guess it shows that we both spent time with counseling during and after our divorces so we could have better relationships in the future.
And the whole sleeping over issue is something we aren't even trying to address. I know my boys would NOT be comfortable with that, dating is fine, Mom going away overnight is fine, but not Mom and BF sleeping together in Mom's bed. With my S18 moving out this month we'll have more flexibility since he doesn't go to his dad's. I think that is another of M's daughter's fears, she's going to walk in on us in his room or something.
QueenBun