Wow, my social group is paying off!
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| Sat, 06-21-2008 - 3:05am |
Ok, so I made that single parents group which is up to 30 members now, and we'll be having our first event in July.
Well, there was this one guy who on his intro post said he wasn't really interested in dating right now, but he really wanted to get out and meet people in the same boat and such.
So, he emailed me a few times totally not hitting on me.. but offering help and such. We bounce ideas back and forth about what kind of events to do, and how to build the group. Never once did he even show personality or anything really.. it was all business. So, I can't even remember without looking it up but this one email we realized we had something in common and omg it just snowballed from there. I have so much in common with this guy its SCARY! lol. Plus he lives like less than 5 miles from me. I'm having a blast talking to him, makes me laugh.. totally gets my sense of humor.
So, we were chatting in yahoo tonight and at this point we're still just really enjoying goofing off and being friendly and realizing how much we have in common yada yada. So I said it... You do realize that if we're attracted to eachother then that whole you aren't ready to date thing is going to go right out the window right? lol. He was like omg, I was thinking the same thing haha. Then we joked about is it a good thing or a bad thing to date someone identical to yourself? haha. I mean like crazy weird stuff.. like I'm building my song list and as I'm typing in Rage Against the Machine he says hey, get some Rage. lol.. just lots of stuff like that. Creepy almost! lol
Anyway.. we're going out next Sunday, and I'm wicked excited about this one!

Wow - this update is good for so many reasons! It is so impressive that you made your own meetup group plus have 30 members already! And then to find someone like you - PLUS to address his intro statement and qualify him as a prospect - that is very good! You take the bull by the horns.
Can't wait to hear more - keep us posted.
What are you all doing for meetings and socials? More details!! :-)
The social group isn't really meant for dating, however I've said from day one whatever happens happens with who you meet. Its meant really for single parents in the same boat to get out and socialize wearing both hats. Hat #1 = family events like Monkey Joe's, Bowling, Swimming, Movies. Hat #2 is actually being a single person that wants to get out and have fun = Pool, Bowling, Paint Ball, Game nights, ect.
I'm actually working around my house to be able to host a card game. I miss having people over a lot, I enjoy playing hostess. Plus this new guy hmm I need to make a name for him.. let me think on that one! lol. Anyway, this new guy loves to play spades, and I have not played in forever.
Those so far are the kind of ideas people have expressed wanting to do. So I'm hoping to have two events a month.. one that is family friendly and you bring the kids, and the other to be adult only events.
and by then, it was too late."
Ok, so the guard will have to be up with this one.. for sure.
I knew he was moving this weekend, and I knew his separation was recent.. but I had no freaking clue he was moving out of his house w/the ex just now! Ack! I mean, my ex and I did the same thing where we got along great, and lived together for 3 more months before we were both financially ready to move out. So, I don't think its odd at all... just kinda scary.
We talked on the phone for two hours tonight, then continued it online for another hour. He's freaking awesome! So, we talked about the "what if" we hit it off and just agreed to focus on the friends stuff, and go slow. We're both just so in shock that we have so much in common. He's like dammit why do you have to be so awesome, this is totally not what I was looking for lol.
Which of course reminds me of the last guy who did the blindsided dumpage. He would make comments of omg you're trouble, why are you so addictive.. stuff like that. Then went running for the hills.
I challenged him to last longer than 4 weeks like the last one lol. He's like ah oh, I'm wondering what this issue is where men dump you after a month. I was like omg me too! If you feel the need, please let me know, I'm very curious lol.
Anyway, the guard is up.. but I can tell this guy is going to be fun :) Just gotta be super careful, take it slow, and try not to freak the poor guy out. I think we can all remember how crazy things are so soon after a separation :/
and by then, it was too late."
How exciting!!! I love playing spades. I play online because i don't have a group for that yet...
I'm glad your guard is up and you are taking it slow..... can't wait to hear how the first meeting with this guy goes....
Loonybunny
Isn't it funny that you have so much in common. Oh well even if nothing romantically happens it's nice to get a great new friend!
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Well.. he's coming over tonight to hang on the patio and drink a few beers. This will be the first place I come to give the dirt! LOL
We can't wait till Sunday.. lol
and by then, it was too late."
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Yeah...so how DID it go with the KOH (king of hearts...is there a king of hearts in spades???M - who OBVIOUSLY only knows how to play go fish:0)
LOL at King of Hearts! It's totally entertaining where some of these screennames come from.
We're all waiting for the update on the date!!! But I think it's cool that you have such a potentially fun singles group brewing! As long as the people there don't get too caught up in "hunting" and spend more energy on just having fun and being friendly. I remember some church singles groups that rubbed me the wrong way because some of the guys just seemed to be on this "wife hunt" and they tried with every female there- just to see what they could get. It was creepy.
Hopefully both the men and women you get in the group- will just go into it for social events and fun... and not just for Hunting.
~shrimpy
"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.
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Yah, my biggest fear is people using it for a dating spot. Here KoH (lol there ya go!) and I weren't even wanting *A* date, and look where that got us lol.
Anyway, I'm so so sorry to say that I do not have anything to report. :(
He had bowling last night, and the plan was for him to stop by here on the way home just for a beer. Then around 5'ish right before he left we were chatting and he was like ya know.. I'm really not liking this idea of meeting you for the first time and having to leave like an hour later. And the quote that made me smile "I'm digging you pretty hard, I don't want to mess that up" haha
So, back to our normal date planned next Sunday even though both of us keep trying to find ways to meet up before then.
Also, my first family friendly social event is set for mid-july. Trying to get sign-ups started now. If things do start off with KoH then we're goiing to have to play it pretty straight at these family events or there goes that no meeting the kids thing right out the window :/
and by then, it was too late."