Wow Wow Wow. He can STILL amaze me -

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Wow Wow Wow. He can STILL amaze me -
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Wed, 11-21-2007 - 10:28pm

I WHAT was i THINKING???? Well, here is the craziness - what he is trying to do, i dont know? Either he is so off the deep end that he isnt thinking strait, OR, more likley, he was trying to set up the scenario that he nicely asked for visitation on the holiday numerous times & I ignored him. The interesting thing is like my email, his is the same, when you e someone back - the original emial stays IN that new email. Well, his used to. Now, suddenly, it isnt. I guess he forgets that MY emial is dated & i CAN prove i continually answered him.

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Thu, 11-22-2007 - 8:03pm

That made sense, Shrimps.

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Thu, 11-22-2007 - 8:13pm

lol about wrestling with the pig! Thats for sure! & yes - i know i have to disengage. I try, i promise. But its hard. Also, the only reason i sometimes will particularly mention something (like lying to the psyc & paraphrasing what he said) is more for documentation purposes than anything.


But YES ... CONTROL.

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Fri, 11-23-2007 - 9:41am
I learned this lesson after one of my friends pointed out to me that my ex was TRYING to get a response from me. Now I either ignore whatever isn't related to the kids and do not even respond when he starts accusing me of issues.
People like that THRIVE on conflict and are just trying to get you to engage in their little games. Just keep it strictly business and related to the issue at hand. Don't keep restating your position. If I feel the need to respond to my original position, I just say "please refer to my email dated -----." Then I don't respond again.
It really tends to take the wind out of their sales when you don't respond.
Stephanie
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Fri, 11-23-2007 - 10:58am

I agree with Stephanie- stick to the issue at hand and don't bring up the rest.


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Fri, 11-23-2007 - 11:31am

You know, I havent said anything like that to her. I guess i should. I HAVE notified the school that ABSOLUTELY under NO circumstances is he to be allowed to come get her ... they know to stall & call me immedietly (Im 2 blacks away). The problem is he DOES have legal custody & I have NOTHING Legal to back me up. He most certainly CAN legally, take her from anywhere. Even more reason for me to have a talk with her. But 1st I am asking to see the pscy on my own. My friend who is a counselor just called me after reading the emails & she siad "he really IS certifiably crazy, isnt he???"

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Fri, 11-23-2007 - 12:25pm

I think Ave's at an age where she does understand what's going on, and being honest with her is the best.


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Fri, 11-23-2007 - 12:53pm

I don't know all of the story

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Fri, 11-23-2007 - 5:20pm

I see your point about wanting to document stuff Taz said and did.

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Fri, 11-23-2007 - 7:29pm

OMGoodness- I cannot beleive you just compared him to a BOIL!!!!



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Fri, 11-23-2007 - 8:59pm

Hi Zen - I apologize in advance if this is long, but I will clarify a few things, & comment on your thoughts. I am not re-tying all of this (im not THAT crazed, lol), but its just cut & pasted from my documentation to show you that I felt as if i had NO choice to protect her - as obviously the courts werent.


You said that you got the feeling I was trying to "punish my X". NOTHING could be further from the truth. Beleive me, if that were the case, i would have "punished him" a LONG time ago. We even had a Gaurdian ad Litum involved once who specifically stated in her report to the court that it was "Obvious this mother has done everything in her power to enable a relationship b/c the child & her father". ALL I WANT IS MY DD TO BE SAFE. That is NOT too much to ask.

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