XH contact this morning .....
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| Mon, 12-24-2007 - 10:37am |
I am still amazed. Why?
Ave asked to call him to say Merry Xmas eve. I would prefer she do it now, whiel I am here with her, as opposed to tonite when she is with her cousins. He has NOT called her in 4 weeks, except for twice, & that was a few weeks ago. The only time they have spoken in the past 2 weeks is once, when she called him. & then again today.
I am still amazed. Why?
Ave asked to call him to say Merry Xmas eve. I would prefer she do it now, while I am here with her, as opposed to tonite when she is with her cousins b/c


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Rebecca, Mom to Averey, 2/8/00, Kibo, Sana & Zuri too!
LOL- lump of coal!
Sheesh, Taz's totally self absorbed rationalizing sounds just like my X. I know you want to let Ave call him when she asks, but I don't think it really helps. He is going to continue to be totally self oriented- didn't buy her a gift because he wasn't going to see her! EXCUSE me, but Dad should be doing what Ave did and just getting one delivered through a third party. Of course the bomb squad should check it out first....sigh.
I have to agree with the others that by responding to him with the sane rational approach only gives him more ammunition for his twisted view of reality- the one where EVERYTHING is your fault and your responsibility. Been there, done that, had the "sucker" tattoo removed from my butt and threw away the rose colored glasses. Rebecca- no contact. Zippo, nada, nothing. You can't take the high road with people like your X. I finally stopped reacting to the crazy stuff mine says. Yesterday, when I went to get my kids for my birthday, he threw a pair of D3's shoes at me. Let's not go into the petty behavior leading up to that nutso response, laughing about it now, the point is I calmly picked them up, took my daughter, after he thought better of the threat that he wasn't going to give her to me, and walked to the car totally ignoring his rant. There was NO WAY I'd let him get me upset on my birthday.
I know it makes YOU feel better to send that email. It certainly made me feel better when I'd do the same thing. But it won't be taken in by his brain the way any normal person would take it. He truly lives in his own private Idaho (no offense to Idaho residents meant).
I feel so bad for Ave. Her father will make their relationship totally her responsibility and that is completely unfair.
QueenBun, waiting to see what kind of revenge PsychoBoy tries on Xmas
Yeah, I am going to try to keep her from calling him tomorrow b/c i dont think it she does, that it will be pretty. I know he will ask to speak to me ...
He has called my cell 3X since that email this AM ... & i havent answered- of course. But then he has text'd twice "Please let me see her".
I just keep thinking of the other Xmas' (teh 1st 2)where i bought, wrapped & sent gifts for her to open from Santa at his house & he never put them out. Told me "This isnt her house, why should Santa come here?"
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Rebecca, Mom to Averey, 2/8/00, Kibo, Sana & Zuri too!
Hi, I have been following your thread since I joined about a month ago, and although dont know the full background, I first want to say what an awesome job you are doing, and I just love how you explain things so delicately and diplomaticaly to Ave.
mom_uk2socal - Mom to DS22, DS19, DD16
FWIW, I liked the original letter.
Hey Rebecca - so sorry that this saga never ends for you.
Hi All, Sorry i havent had Inet access at families.
As for X, he tried & tried. Called, left VM's (nice ones though) & texts "please let me see her", after that email i sent.
Keep up the good Ignoring work Becca! Don't let him punch your buttons, he evidently knows how and which ones to push. Avery is very lucky to have an awesome mom and I'm so glad that Xmas was not totally ruined for her.
I'll definitely send up a prayer for you and your brother.
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