OK, old (no pun intended) lady here to help. I hope.
When I started OLD I would drool over the cute guys with clever profiles. They NEVER wrote back.
Now, I have decided that OLD is like playing a game. Like someone said, in the past you might meet one guy a week, now you have zillions to choose from. It's a little mind boggling. I don't get upset anymore when I don't get a response because I have had a lot of icky guys email me, too.
Here's what I do. I don't have huge success, but not bad either. I haven't let my standards down, I actually have raised them quite a bit lately, and have gotten happier with the process.
First, I only contact guys in my age range...just a couple of years younger (like two) and up to 8 years older. Any older and they are too close in age to my mom who was 18 when I was born. And she is REALLY hot for a woman her age. Don't want any competition : )
Next, they have to have been married. 46 and never married...red flag. Then, they have to have kids. Since I started making that a requirement, I have found that I get responses about half the time! Mine are with me 24/7, so the guy has to be able to deal with that.
I have also noticed that if I look at guys who aren't the best writers, but show some sort of sincerity in their profiles I get more of a response than the ones who are a laugh riot, write like a comedy show or "show off" so much about themselves I want to gag. One guy I am talking to made this really obscure reference to a song from the late 70's, and not much else, but what a jumping off point for a great conversation because I knew what he was talking about (ironically he asked me to go to a show on Friday with another obscure new-wave act from the 70's, but I had to stay home and write a paper. Sounds like something I would have said when the guy was performing in the late 70's!)
The new level of requirement is I have added the HJNTIY rules. I will make an initial email, but that is about the end of pursuing on my end from now on. Not taking his number, he can have mine. Don't hear from him for four days...oh well, move on. Any guy who doesn't respond after four days is "nexted", especially if I see that he has viewed me.
Remember, if he doesn't want you, why would you want him?
Even if he is really, really to die for cute.
So what has this new 'tude gotten me? A date for Thursday, another calling me when he gets back from a business trip (called from the trip), talking to two others.
Not bad for an old lady whose husband left her cause she was too fat to be married to. Oh, and by the way, after he left, I lost 40 "spite" pounds and am thinner than I was before I had kids.
Wow you are doing well! I only respond to divorced or widowed men with kids between 40 and 50. I am 43. If they can't spell, I next them. And you are right the good looking ones don't respond. But unlike you,
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I promise you that you're not a loser! Online dating stinks!
I joined for one month, then renewed for another.
Hey! Hello! I saw your pic & you are BEAUTIFUL!
Thanks Rebecca,
OK, old (no pun intended) lady here to help. I hope.
When I started OLD I would drool over the cute guys with clever profiles. They NEVER wrote back.
Now, I have decided that OLD is like playing a game. Like someone said, in the past you might meet one guy a week, now you have zillions to choose from. It's a little mind boggling. I don't get upset anymore when I don't get a response because I have had a lot of icky guys email me, too.
Here's what I do. I don't have huge success, but not bad either. I haven't let my standards down, I actually have raised them quite a bit lately, and have gotten happier with the process.
First, I only contact guys in my age range...just a couple of years younger (like two) and up to 8 years older. Any older and they are too close in age to my mom who was 18 when I was born. And she is REALLY hot for a woman her age. Don't want any competition : )
Next, they have to have been married. 46 and never married...red flag. Then, they have to have kids. Since I started making that a requirement, I have found that I get responses about half the time! Mine are with me 24/7, so the guy has to be able to deal with that.
I have also noticed that if I look at guys who aren't the best writers, but show some sort of sincerity in their profiles I get more of a response than the ones who are a laugh riot, write like a comedy show or "show off" so much about themselves I want to gag. One guy I am talking to made this really obscure reference to a song from the late 70's, and not much else, but what a jumping off point for a great conversation because I knew what he was talking about (ironically he asked me to go to a show on Friday with another obscure new-wave act from the 70's, but I had to stay home and write a paper. Sounds like something I would have said when the guy was performing in the late 70's!)
The new level of requirement is I have added the HJNTIY rules. I will make an initial email, but that is about the end of pursuing on my end from now on. Not taking his number, he can have mine. Don't hear from him for four days...oh well, move on. Any guy who doesn't respond after four days is "nexted", especially if I see that he has viewed me.
Remember, if he doesn't want you, why would you want him?
Even if he is really, really to die for cute.
So what has this new 'tude gotten me? A date for Thursday, another calling me when he gets back from a business trip (called from the trip), talking to two others.
Not bad for an old lady whose husband left her cause she was too fat to be married to. Oh, and by the way, after he left, I lost 40 "spite" pounds and am thinner than I was before I had kids.
Wow you are doing well! I only respond to divorced or widowed men with kids between 40 and 50. I am 43. If they can't spell, I next them. And you are right the good looking ones don't respond. But unlike you,
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