YIKES... I can't handle all these men...

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YIKES... I can't handle all these men...
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Mon, 08-27-2007 - 10:24am

I know... I should be enjoying myself... but I'm not exactly... I'm so used to flirting and just enjoying that and not having it go anywhere... I don't know what I'm doing now that I'm getting call backs etc. And let me tell ya how i messed things up on Saturday.. but that has made me conclude that I need to take a break... not a long one.. just a week break from staying out late.... i need sleep.

Ever since Thursday and Sean.. I have only wanted to see him again... BUT I also thought I need to slow things down a bit.. emotionally. Hate to confess that i'm having trouble with the emotional side of things... But i have to say, the sex was sooo good and I haven't had that in a REALLY long time.. He asked me to call him so I did on Saturday. I left him one voice message at 3:30 pm ... telling him i had a sitter and wanted to meet up later. I was disappointed that i didn't hear from him.

But I DID have a sitter so of course, I went out to karaoke... Since i didn't hear from Sean, i called Sam... Didn't hear back from him. Hmmm... i thought, who else can i call... I said hello to Cook, who was working. A friend of mine said, all Cook ever talks about is me... And i said, if that's true why doesn't he call or talk to me.... ?????

Confession, i was actually depressed at about midnight. I enjoy karaoke a lot but I was disappointed that i didnt hear from any of "my men".... But then the craziness began.. Sam called back. He had been at a funeral all day.. He said he would come out and meet me. COOL!!

Then, another guy i know, Eddie, showed up. (i didn't get his number after i realized i need to slow down a bit...lol) Eddi and I sang a duet and he asked to play pool with me. Awesome. At that point, Sam showed up... And at that point Cook got off work and came over to say hi.

So, Yes, I had 3 guys sitting at my table at once. YIKES. One minute i'm sitting alone and the next minute... oh boy.

Eddie invited me somewhere afterwards, but i said no.... and Eddie seems like a nice guy. At 2 am, the bar closed. I'm thinking, how do i resolve things with Jimmy (aka Cook) and Sam. Afterall, i called Sam to hang out and he came. That was soo cool... Jimmy went back inside to finish with cleanup... And Sam walked me to my car. He invited me to play bowling with him on his coed Bowling league.... But i had to turn him down. I didn't foresee getting a sitter for Sunday morning... It might have been fun, too. Sam also said he likes playing Spades. I love playing Spades... i feel like i need to do that again soon with friends. Sam called me when he got home at 2:30 am... i was already asleep and don't quite remember what he said.... something about making sure i got home okay and letting me know he got home, too.

And finally, Sean called at 3 am. I was totally tired and unable to have a conversation. I shouldn't have answered the phone, really... He sounded wide awake and maybe disappointed that I sounded tired. He said he watched the Cubs game and fell asleep. But he said something I found interesting... When I said, i heard the phone ringing and it woke me up... He said, "Ringing? I only called you once..." He said something about other men calling me. I can't remember how he put it, but i think he was fishing to see if he was the only one.... Do men think that way??? I know I was curious about how many other women he sees but do guys care??? Obviously, he cared or he wouldn't have said something... He said call him.. and I told him to call me too.

I didn't know if I should have said "no baby you're the only one..." or if it was okay to joke about my men... The truth is He's my TOP man, but if he's not interested i have others on my list... Even still, i'm disappointed that I haven't heard from Sean since then....

And that's not all.... when I got bored Sunday night, I called Jimmy. I dialed his number but at the last minute hung up... And wouldn't you know it, he called me right back.. That makes me smile. I told him how I need to take a break from going up there... i need some sleep. He said he will be bored without me showing up. I told him i called him just to bug him.... i asked about his cooking school plans, etc. He said i could call him anytime to bug him. At least i made a friend and that's what i like about Jimmy.

Phew,... thanks for listening.

Loonybunny

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Mon, 08-27-2007 - 11:00am

You're right. That is a lot going on. I think you might want to reduce the pool, or start over some. Hard sometimes to make a decision. I'd say instead of calling and "meeting up" for something, maybe you should start letting them call and actually ask you out. They may weed themselves out that way.

Good luck with all the men. It was a little stormy my way this weekend as well...

Priscilla

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Mon, 08-27-2007 - 1:14pm

I agree that going up every night seems like a lot. It can wear you out and make you tired and cranky. Although you like it, I would suggest downsizing it to a few nights.

Get your ducks in a row, try not to call everyone up and let them call you up. Not hearing from you will surely make the heart grow fonder. :)

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Mon, 08-27-2007 - 6:07pm

Wow - you are at no loss for getting out and having fun and that is good.

I don't know if you wanted our vote - but I like what you write about Sam - and that he called to make sure you got home okay.

Keep us posted!

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Mon, 08-27-2007 - 7:19pm

Wow LB... reading all your posts about "raining men" just takes me back to my old partying days when I was in my early 20's. OMG my life sounded like that!! So many interests, so many flirts... but yet no one I could keep. I had a blast back then, being so carefree, but then it got old because I had no one to call my own, no one who was a special person I could be special to. That part was always missing, although I was having a blur of fun.

I just don't see how you have the energy to do all this WITH kids at home! I did it when I was totally single, and it was tiring even THEN! How DO you keep up that pace with kids to take care of in "real life" as well?? Man- No wonder you were feeling tired this weekend! I would've crashed and burned weeks ago! lol

It is great that you are so "out there" with meeting new people all the time, instead of staying home. Sure does give you better odds of possibly meeting a match, just because you've increased the numbers! Best of luck to you with it all!

~shrimpy

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"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.

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Mon, 08-27-2007 - 10:32pm

How FUN!

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Tue, 08-28-2007 - 1:00am

Haha- poor you!


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Tue, 08-28-2007 - 9:24am

Thanks for the feedback everyone....

Alison... You are right about Sean... FWB... and your advice is sound. Today i feel much better, probably also because i'm not obsessing over the next time I'll see him.. and although it was a tough thought yesterday.. i told myself i need to let him go.... and what i mean by that is i won't call him... nope, i won't... no calling and no texting... If he calls and i'm in the mood.. maybe.. but otherwise, i'm moving on.

You are right about Jimmy, too.... i like that he's a friend, though... i feel like i can be goofy and stupid...but I'm also going to stop pulling teeth.... so to speak.

And yes, Sam does sound sweet... from the first time i met him and he asked for MY number and wanted to know how he could see me again... at the time, i didn't give it to him.... then later, remember i was hoping to see him again and thought, i should have gotten his number or given him mine... So, i'm glad i saw him again. But i'm still going to wait and see if he calls me later.....

well, there's also Michigan... i have his number and he was a cutie. Cowboy, type.. but i haven't had the nerve to call. And I still enjoy flirting with the Bartender...his cute butt cheers me up...lol...

Like i said, i feel better today... i'm getting enough sleep....

Loonybunny

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Tue, 08-28-2007 - 9:40am

>>So many interests, so many flirts... but yet no one I could keep.<< That's exactly how i felt yesterday and over the weekend. I feel better today, though... but you nailed it.

>>I would've crashed and burned weeks ago! lol<< Yes, and this is probably why my mood was dwindling, too.. not enough sleep. I had more energy than i thought i would but at the same time my eyes felt dry and my face looked pale. I'm getting my beauty sleep this week.