& he said (it was a voice mail) "Rebecca, this is Dr. K. I have met with Michael & I think it would be a good idea for us to all meet again together, this coming Monday at 4pm, if you are avalaible"
CRAP! My stomach is turning!!!!
Rebecca, Mom to Averey, 2/8/00, Kibo, Sana & Zuri too!
No! No Averey at all. The doc wont do that. He meant as in all THREE of us, X & I with the doc. I did leave the guy a message that I could be there. But yes, i think i will call back & leave him a message saying i would like to talk with him 1st, so i am somewhat prepared. Ugh.
NOW i have to go try & sleep after work. GOOD LUCK with that!
Rebecca, Mom to Averey, 2/8/00, Kibo, Sana & Zuri too!
Oh Rebecca I know I have just recently started posting again but just the title of your post made my heart skip a beat. I hope they mean you, him and the pysch as the "all" I cant imagine that the doc would want to have Avery in there quite yet. The real test for your ex seems to be behaving himself when you are in the room. He doesnt have the control to behave himself when he is around you and so even if he did well just him and the doc yesterday I have to doubt that he will pass the test once you are there. I am sorry but I cant remember - how was he when you all met the last time? I just remember it going very downhill fast after that but I cant remember whether he put on a convincing act while you guys were there. I am so sorry you have to deal with this.
Perfect that you called the doctor to update about it!! I definitely think you should do that.
Now sleep - you will be fine - you are going in the right direction with all of it. And I am sure the doc is following procedure correctly so you have a better case. If Taz is calling and wanting to do better he should answer that and deal with it - not just do nothing - he has to build a case and investigate.
Yes I remember now. He has very little self control or impulse control with his emotions and that is a true sign of a sociopath as I know you know. When you act the way you know you shouldnt in front of the very person who shouldnt see you acting that way ever. Unfortunately even though I am sure it costs you emotionally ever time you are around this behavior, it is this no impulse control thing that will be his "tell" every time to the psych. He should be required to face very difficult questions by you and the doc and he should have to hold it absolutely together while remaining calm and contrite for a few consults before visitation is restored in any way IMO. I know you have been documenting everything but there are so many things I thik I would become flustered. Maybe you have become a pro at this game he keeps forcing you to play but I would take some time with someone you know that is close and go over all of it to organize it by date in your head so you can be very factual as you always have been even under the pressure. To me it would seem like an almost goal to get him to show his true side and listing everything without much emotion but in sheer facts like a laundry list of offenses in front of the psych could trigger him which ( as scary as it is) is what the psych needs to continue protecting Avery I guess. I really hope you can consult with the doc first because I think that would be really useful to you.
GOOD! You definitely need to meet with or speak to the doctor to give him that stuff!!!
I think this is all a process and the more history you have with Taz the stronger your case will be for the right decisions and procedures for DD in the end. So look at the positive side to this. You have to build the case and the doc is on Ave's side.
I figured you did all of that. I guess what I meant was I would be very nervous reciting all of those things and there is such a long laundry list of his offenses at this point I thought going over them with someone verbally first might be helpful. Are you coming with a piece of paper that rolls out in front of you about a mile?lol This is coming from the violinist in me that never goes to a big performance without doing little practice run throughs all over town I guess. You might be as well spoken as you are well written but I am not! I have no trouble writing or playing violin in public but speaking sometimes poses a problem with nerves. Sounds like you have done everything right as always. Avery is so so lucky to have you and all of your attributes to help her. I know you know it but we are all going to keep saying it because it keeps running through our heads.
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Oh my goodness - that is certainly scarey. I would feel sick too. That is unexpected. I wonder if you can meet with the doc by yourself first?
Keep us posted!!
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April
No! No Averey at all. The doc wont do that. He meant as in all THREE of us, X & I with the doc. I did leave the guy a message that I could be there. But yes, i think i will call back & leave him a message saying i would like to talk with him 1st, so i am somewhat prepared. Ugh.
NOW i have to go try & sleep after work. GOOD LUCK with that!
Rebecca, Mom to Averey, 2/8/00, Kibo, Sana & Zuri too!
I am so sorry you have to deal with this.
Im sure you saw by now, in the above, he does NOT mean w/ Averey.
Perfect that you called the doctor to update about it!! I definitely think you should do that.
Now sleep - you will be fine - you are going in the right direction with all of it. And I am sure the doc is following procedure correctly so you have a better case. If Taz is calling and wanting to do better he should answer that and deal with it - not just do nothing - he has to build a case and investigate.
Rebecca, Mom to Averey, 2/8/00, Kibo, Sana & Zuri too!
GOOD! You definitely need to meet with or speak to the doctor to give him that stuff!!!
I think this is all a process and the more history you have with Taz the stronger your case will be for the right decisions and procedures for DD in the end. So look at the positive side to this. You have to build the case and the doc is on Ave's side.
This is coming from the violinist in me that never goes to a big performance without doing little practice run throughs all over town I guess. You might be as well spoken as you are well written but I am not! I have no trouble writing or playing violin in public but speaking sometimes poses a problem with nerves. Sounds like you have done everything right as always. Avery is so so lucky to have you and all of your attributes to help her. I know you know it but we are all going to keep saying it because it keeps running through our heads.
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