Don't worry - the next one will be better. It has been a long time - and you have had some bad years during your dating hiatus. And now you have a lesson on dating today - did you see the post I made about "dating value" - it will help.
But for now - just wait for the right one - the right one will want to impress you and will chase you more.
No harm done - lessons are good!! More dating in order!!
I remember how clueless I was when I divorced in 2002 after 21 years of marriage. I wish I would have had this message board to save myself some heartache! Let me share some of the things I have learned the hard way.
First of all, let the men pursue you. Yeah, I have winked at some guys but you know what? It never worked out. Although, I do see nothing wrong with at least winking or sending an icebreaker.
You can be anybody you want to be online. Yeah, I wish every guy was like his profile. But the true test of character will show through time and actions. Believe what they do, not what they say. Also, don't ever assume you are exclusive unless you have both agreed.
Don't invest more time in someone than they invest in you. I don't care how much you like them! That lesson took me a couple of go rounds to get it right! I also was told and now totally believe that the first 6 months of dating is a probation period. I don't get too wrapped up in anybody until I see how they handle every day problems and life.
There is a good online dating message board you might want to check out here on Ivillage. Lots of experienced people there. Just reading the different posts helped me out quite a bit.
Don't worry - the next one will be better. It has been a long time - and you have had some bad years during your dating hiatus. And now you have a lesson on dating today - did you see the post I made about "dating value" - it will help.
But for now - just wait for the right one - the right one will want to impress you and will chase you more.
No harm done - lessons are good!! More dating in order!!
I remember how clueless I was when I divorced in 2002 after 21 years of marriage. I wish I would have had this message board to save myself some heartache! Let me share some of the things I have learned the hard way.
First of all, let the men pursue you. Yeah, I have winked at some guys but you know what? It never worked out. Although, I do see nothing wrong with at least winking or sending an icebreaker.
You can be anybody you want to be online. Yeah, I wish every guy was like his profile. But the true test of character will show through time and actions. Believe what they do, not what they say. Also, don't ever assume you are exclusive unless you have both agreed.
Don't invest more time in someone than they invest in you. I don't care how much you like them! That lesson took me a couple of go rounds to get it right! I also was told and now totally believe that the first 6 months of dating is a probation period. I don't get too wrapped up in anybody until I see how they handle every day problems and life.
There is a good online dating message board you might want to check out here on Ivillage. Lots of experienced people there. Just reading the different posts helped me out quite a bit.
Stephanie