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| Mon, 08-04-2008 - 11:15pm |
Well, BG called me this weekend and stopped by. Apparently he loves me and can't stand the thought of not being with me. 16 months and never a word or indication of his deeper feelings and I'm supposed to drop my new independence and come running back. Everyone here told me to be prepared for him to say all the right things to win be back and I never dreamed he would try. Not that he's winning me back my any means. I told him that actions speak louder than words. And or course he said "how can I do anything about getting you back when you're dating other people?" I told him that I have no intention of coming back to him at this point in our lives, if ever. I also told him how hurt I was that he had emailed my friends asking them out and he said "well at least I waited until you had broken up with me to attempt to date...you cheated on me" (this after we had decided to date others). We went round and round and he apologized (which he never has done before) for not being there for me, holding me or showing me affection, for not showing interest in me, etc. and I told him that now it would feel fake and I know it wouldn't last. He'd do it to get me back and then stop when he had me. Besides, I'm having a blast with LDD. We went to dinner with some friends of his. We had a wonderful dinner, wine and great conversation. Just a fairytale kind of evening for me. I told him as we were saying good night "this evening was so magical. I feel like I stepped into someone else's life." And he said, without missing a beat "You did step into someone else's life....mine". Girls, I about lost it. What a sweet thing to say!!!
Anyway, BG and I left it that we are done and it's time to move on. I'm hurting over this a great deal. BG says I should have told him all that was wrong before it got so bad but I never believed that he really cared to know or I would have. And I can't imagine going on in life with someone that I can't share my feelings, fear, joys, etc with 100%.
So I'm moving on with life and hoping BG and I can be friends in the future but he is very hurt and angry with me right now so I'm sure it will take time, if ever.

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"I told him that I have no intention of coming back to him at this point in our lives, if ever."
GOOD! There is no way I would trust him after that email. And PUUULLLEEEEEZE - you were trying to tell him you needed more time and he blew you off when he was working out of town.
I think this is all about his stupid male ego and rejection. And it is just too little too late.
I like the sounds of LDD. Hopefully you can shake this off by tomorrow and not skip a beat! Keep us posted. I am sorry he had to hurt your feelings and betray your trust so many times. That was sad for us to read your stories!!
Oh Cat, LDD sounds like a dream !!!!
As for BG, let him crawl back under the rock he calls home and be done- I'm so proud of you for standing up for yourself. You were right to say to him that you KNOW he would only do enough to get you back and things would return to the way they were!
Be strong, BG WILL be back and will try again- he will continue to try to wear you down, so stand your guard for it. If you're feeling weak, don't answer the phone. And if you feel like calling/ emailing him, call a gf instead or come here.
When do you see LDD again?
Cat - Revel in your evening with LDD .....and I agree with Alison and West...BG can crawl back under his rock.
I'm seeing LDD again Weds evening after he gets off of work.
Cat,
I echo West's post...
With BG it is his ego that is bruised. When he tries to slither back in, remember that he was never available to you emotionally, was not affectionate, and you could not share the joy that you feel inside.
I also love the way LDD is sounding. "You did step into someone else's life....mine".
Cat,
All of my adult relationships (3 including BG) have been situations where I love with my whole heart, I'm underappreciated and I leave. Then, and only then, do they realize what they had.
And I feel like a princess with LDD.
OMG!
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