You guys called it!

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Registered: 10-09-2005
You guys called it!
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Mon, 08-04-2008 - 11:15pm

Well, BG called me this weekend and stopped by. Apparently he loves me and can't stand the thought of not being with me. 16 months and never a word or indication of his deeper feelings and I'm supposed to drop my new independence and come running back. Everyone here told me to be prepared for him to say all the right things to win be back and I never dreamed he would try. Not that he's winning me back my any means. I told him that actions speak louder than words. And or course he said "how can I do anything about getting you back when you're dating other people?" I told him that I have no intention of coming back to him at this point in our lives, if ever. I also told him how hurt I was that he had emailed my friends asking them out and he said "well at least I waited until you had broken up with me to attempt to date...you cheated on me" (this after we had decided to date others). We went round and round and he apologized (which he never has done before) for not being there for me, holding me or showing me affection, for not showing interest in me, etc. and I told him that now it would feel fake and I know it wouldn't last. He'd do it to get me back and then stop when he had me. Besides, I'm having a blast with LDD. We went to dinner with some friends of his. We had a wonderful dinner, wine and great conversation. Just a fairytale kind of evening for me. I told him as we were saying good night "this evening was so magical. I feel like I stepped into someone else's life." And he said, without missing a beat "You did step into someone else's life....mine". Girls, I about lost it. What a sweet thing to say!!!

Anyway, BG and I left it that we are done and it's time to move on. I'm hurting over this a great deal. BG says I should have told him all that was wrong before it got so bad but I never believed that he really cared to know or I would have. And I can't imagine going on in life with someone that I can't share my feelings, fear, joys, etc with 100%.

So I'm moving on with life and hoping BG and I can be friends in the future but he is very hurt and angry with me right now so I'm sure it will take time, if ever.

Cat
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Registered: 10-09-2005
Tue, 08-05-2008 - 3:20pm
Thank you so much for the good laugh, Rebecca!!!
Cat
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Registered: 03-19-2008
Wed, 08-06-2008 - 3:20pm

I dont think BG deserves the time of day, much less the honor of being your friend. I noticed that he came back AFTER he contacted your friends asking them out. I think the phrase A Day

anonymous
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Registered: 03-19-2008
Wed, 08-06-2008 - 3:25pm

"All of my adult relationships (3 including BG) have been situations where I love with my whole heart, I'm underappreciated and I leave. Then, and only then, do they realize what they had.

anonymous
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Registered: 10-09-2005
Wed, 08-06-2008 - 3:40pm

He only sought me out when I asked for a gift that I gave him back.

Cat
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Registered: 03-19-2008
Wed, 08-06-2008 - 3:56pm

Cat, there was no lack of judgment. You did what you thought was best based on the knowledge you had at the time. For all you knew then you could have been married happily to him now and riding the ATV's daily. Dont beat yourself up over this one.


Laurie

anonymous
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Registered: 10-09-2005
Wed, 08-06-2008 - 4:24pm

Thank you for saying that.

Cat
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Registered: 11-20-2007
Thu, 08-07-2008 - 10:10am
That's a great motto! LDD sounds like quite a catch - I'm glad to see you've found someone worthwhile. =-D
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