Your goals for your kids . . .
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Your goals for your kids . . .
| Mon, 09-20-2004 - 7:09pm |
Dr. Phil posed the question: "What are your goals for your child?"
A woman said "as long as she's not pregnant or in jail by the time she's 18 - I've done my job."
My parents kind of felt that way. They wanted us to have good educations and to be "functioning members of society", too.
Looking at that - I think those are pretty weak. As a parent, aren't I responsible for more?
By the time your child is 18, what is your goals/hopes for him/her?

To raise her in a loving supportive home.
To teach her the difference between wrong and right.
To help her develop a healthy dose of self-esteem.
And to provide her with a well-rounded education and a multitude of opportunities to experience life.
I really want her to make her own goals as she grows. I will help her to identify and reach those goals, and may steer her in the right direction when she strays, but I don't think I will be making them for her. For example, she is an excellent swimmer with a very natural talent. If she decides that she wants to pursue this I will support her all the way to the Olympics. However, if she thought that swimming was a terrible punishment and why is she cursed with this talent? I would never force her to cultivate that talent.
My motto is to always "try...give it a shot before you make up your mind." (unless it's illegal or really bad for you). :)
My parents did the usual "be what we wanted to be" thing...my mom wanted to be a teacher so she encouraged me to do that, my dad wanted to be an artist so he tried to mold me into that.
I remember once my ex saying "my goal for you" to me...I never want to do that to anyone.
I hope Tyler is:
Confident in his choices and who he is.
Gracious in dealing with others.
A person who loves God.
Not abusing any substance.
NOT in a serious relationship, ready to be married.
Has some idea of a career path. Anything reasonable, as long as he follows his heart.
Based on my family pattern, I sincerely pray he is not battling any kind of depression.
Ready to accept that his parents were not perfect, but love him wholeheartedly and have done their very best for him.
NOT in the military!!!
Thanks for asking us - what a good question.
I know I want my son to be happy and successful in his own eyes. I am hoping he will be happily married with a nice wife and children and successful in his career so that he does what he loves and makes enough money without having to work too hard. I am hoping he has good health and no burden too difficult to bear.
Hugs, Marilyn
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I want them to be mentally and emotionally healthy.
I hope that they are both chivalrous and gentlemen.
I hope they respect themselves and other people, especially women.
I hope they have faith and believe in God.
I want them to both have done well in high school and have plans for life. THEIR OWN plans, and not plans forced upon them by me, their dads, or society. SO MUCH of what I did I did because I felt "I'm supposed to" and not because I really wanted to, and I do NOT want them to make that same mistake.
I hope they are risk-takers. I want them to have faith in themselves and in their abilities.
I hope they aren't in any serious relationships upon graduating high school. I hope they allow themselves time to figure out what it is they want in life, what it is they value, and don't rush into anything.
Mindy
http://cosmosandcranium.blogspot.com/
I don't think my oldest will have kids. I don't know why, it's just a feeling I have. And as adventureous as he is, I think a wife and children would slow him down from achieving his goals, or prevent him from achieving them all together, and I don't like that thought. I really hope if he DOES get married and have children, that he waits until he is much older than I was - preferably in his late 30s.
Mindy
http://cosmosandcranium.blogspot.com/