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Fri, 08-20-2004 - 2:12pm

Im pregnant- due April 15th!


YEP-- anyone who is using the Nuvaring STOP now - it obviously does not work!


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Registered: 03-25-2003
Fri, 08-20-2004 - 2:21pm
How do you feel about it??? Are you ok???? My sister and my SIL's birthdays are both 4/15!!!

I've been using the Nuvaring for 11 months now (and I know 7 others that use it) . . . so I wouldn't say it doesn't work. Do you smoke, or have you gained weight (as little as 10 pounds) since you started using it, or have you been on antibiotics or St. John's Wart? One thing with Nuvaring, since it is SUCH a lose dose of estrogen, that it is EASILY rendered ineffective, and I personally feel doctors are doing a POOR JOB of making that known! Or - you just may be "Fertile Myrtle" and require a higher dose of estrogen!!!!

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Fri, 08-20-2004 - 2:22pm
Wow. I might hold off on the whole matching leathers thing for the bike then LOL. How is Jerry taking it? When did you find out? Excited? Stunned? A little of both? Best wishes.
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Fri, 08-20-2004 - 3:05pm

Wow!

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Fri, 08-20-2004 - 6:37pm

Well i guess I am one of the lucky ones who are part of the 1% non effective= we are numb- stunned and overwhelmed!!


This was not planned at all...we have enough kids between us already ( I have twins age 9 - he has 3 boy 15, boy 14, girl 12)- plus we were kind of having a rocky period in our relationship in regards to communication


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Registered: 10-18-2003
Fri, 08-20-2004 - 6:58pm

WOW!

Kim

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Fri, 08-20-2004 - 7:00pm
Hugs, hugs, hugs.

I've been where you are. You weren't around then, but I got pregnant while on the pill when TT and I had been dating 6 months (I was put on the antibiotic, Cipro, which I knew interferred with my birth control so we used spermicidal inserts as back up - which failed) and remember very well all of the scary times that we went through. Worrying about the baby being harmed due to my being on birth control, due to my being on Cipro (which is known to cause birth defects), I seriously wasn't planning on having any more kids, and although our relationship was "good" - it was VERY early in our relationship and we did NOT have the foundation required for an unexpected/unplanned pregnancy.

Before Sunday night - I really encourage you to take some time to yourself and determine what it is that YOU want. Do YOU want a baby right now? Do you want a baby right now if he is involved? If he isn't? Do you want to make the required adjustments to your life plan, your financial plan that a new baby will require?

I knew instantly that I was keeping the baby. TT knew instantly that I was keeping the baby. I informed him that I wanted him there for it, but that I was prepared to do it on my own if he didn't want to be. He asked me to move in with him. I stalled him on that for 4 months, demanded that we see a financial counselor and a legal advisor. I had documents prepared (a co-habitation agreement, a proposed support agreement) and in place in case at either time either of us said "I change my mind - this isn't what I want - I can't do this" that I was protected, and that the baby would be cared for financially. Since I was dragging my son into what I saw as a "fine mess" - I also had provisions in the co-habitation agreement about him. We went through financial counseling, we started step-parenting classes and joined a step-parenting support group, and we started premarital counseling. It took alot of honesty. It took alot of courage to be able to say "this is what I need from you and if I don't get it - I will leave the relationship. This is what I want, what I deserve, and I'm not settling for less." Being pregnant while not being married - even though he expressed his commitment to me, my son, and our child - caused insecurities in me like I have never experienced in my life.

Hugs to you. This is a hard, difficult time. Please know that no matter WHAT you decide, we are here for you. You can lean on us. We will be here for you.

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Fri, 08-20-2004 - 7:05pm

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Fri, 08-20-2004 - 8:01pm
Look at it this way, you now have a few built in baby sitters!

Congrats.

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Fri, 08-20-2004 - 10:17pm
OMG is right. Although I think if that was me I would be happy. I am 42 and would like to have another one so my clock is ticking.

I think that once you work through the initial shock you are going to start remembering all of the sweet baby times - the cute little noises, the precious smell of their neck, the little fist that wraps around your finger, the first laugh, and of course the insanity.

You do have a lot of things going for you - but this must be so scary because I remember your earlier posts about Jerry and the uncertainty with your relationship. But you do have this board and all of your experience. Many moms have done okay with much less. You will be strong and be okay and you will have a treasure.

I love the due date!!

Okay girls - these things always happen in threes and we have Mel and MBfun - who is NEXT?? ;-)

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Registered: 10-18-2003
Fri, 08-20-2004 - 10:25pm

Well, 32 is certainly not too old for a baby.

Kim

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