You've been lookin' for love all around
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| Sat, 01-27-2007 - 11:19pm |
the world, baby don't you know this country girl's still free? Why not me? Why not me on a rainy day, why not me to love your cares away? Why not me?...
Here's the story. I signed up for OLD a few months ago (maybe 2) and haven't seen or been contacted by anyone that I'm really into meeting. Most of them were too far away, a few were just not my type. I have pretty liberal standards as far as what I'm willing to consider- but the guy has to meet a few very specific criteria or I won't even contact him back. The site I use (match) does this comparison side-by-side, and if we don't match each other's desired age range, children that we already have (they have to be okay with me having them, and I don't care if they HAVE children), and whether or not we want children (I KNOW I don't want any more kids. Someone who knows he does isn't the right guy for me.) These three things are pretty set in stone for me- then I weed out from there.
So, about a week ago, this guy who lives actually very near me (the next town over, less than 20 miles away, which is CLOSE considering how far away most people are) winked at me. He's 41, has one daughter, doens't want anymore, and looking for women between 35-45. So, I didn't contact him back, since I can't jump a decade to fit into his desired age range. I actually said NEXT out loud as I deleted him.
Then, tonight I get a message from him. I respond, we end up IMing for quite a while. Since that's going well, I end up giving him my number. About 25 minutes into the conversation, it comes to light that he GREW UP with my best friend. We had both said the other looked familiar, and chances are she's actually casually introduced us out somewhere, and we never thought twice about it.
The conversation turned to other people we knew in common, and the likelihood that we know so many of the same people and haven't actually met or at least crossed paths is pretty slim. But the fact that he knows my best friend very well, and her husband, makes me laugh. I mean, she knows we're both looking to date- and simply never thought of introducing us- or there's a reason why she thinks we wouldn't be compatible. (Yet she introduced me to her ex-husband- HA!) It's very bizarre, and while I'm thinking I'll tell her about the whole situation, I'm not going to put too much emphasis on what she says- unless of course it's horrible!
And I so far like what I know about him. He's 41, has a good job, has his 9 year old daughter part time, we have a few of the same hobbies, obviously know a few of the same people... the conversation was not awkward, even before we knew we had a mutual friend. It flowed, we talked about our children, work, our lives, he asked all the right questions.
We discussed meeting sometime this week. Tomorrow would be good, except I think I have kid stuff going on, and won't know until late morning, so we'll see about a cup of coffee or something later in the week. I'll certainly keep you all posted!
Moody, who has decided it is, indeed, a small world

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A coworker of mine (and Double D's) who I call Dr Phil, because he sort of looks like him, and gives me all sorts of life advice, tells me that I should be more bold. He knows the story, and knows the whole rest of my life, too.
He thinks Double D is in fact into me, but that we're both being too subtle about it. Case in point, skiing. The thing is, we do both have busy lives, and we work at almost opposite ends of the day. However, I'm not going to keep suggesting things to do together without him asking me out again.
George Carlin was my idea, I had a great time, but I would have if I'd gone alone. I'm glad Double D came with me, and glad he asked me to grab a bite to eat, and I'll be more than happy to agree to another date, if it works with my schedule. But he has to ask before I can worry about that.
If you look at our lives, OLD-guy and I have much more in common, at least on paper. We'll see how it pans out in real life. I have a good feeling, not necessarily about him, or Double D, but about dating in general.
I just feel like this will be the year I find a meaningful, lasting relationship- and since I already have a couple of prospects, it looks like my feeling might be spot on this time.
Moody, trying to be more obvious without being idiotic
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YES YES YES YES! I agree with EVERYTHING you say.
The man who is right for you will make an EFFORT and will have a lot in common. You will have a meaningful lasting relationship for sure.
Just hang in there!! :-)
And I am on the same page with you!!
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