state of confusion - repost

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Registered: 11-12-2011
state of confusion - repost
Sun, 11-13-2011 - 11:37pm

Kind of repost - had to make clear what I was trying to say from previous post - Sorry about that !!

I've been seeing a guy on and off for a couple years, nothing serious or steady. He's about 10 years younger than me. Reason I bring up the age difference is because maybe his behaviour has something to do with being slightly younger?? Not sure.

The other night we were together and after our 'fun' he announced he had some bad news. .... I'll stop right there and say, Yup, he got what he wanted then delivered the news! I'm a fool... anyhow, he told me that he MIGHT have a girlfriend...operative word might...but if she is OK with it, 'we can still go out, etc'

and by might have gf is that he he said he has to talk to her to let her know he will be seeing other women - if she is jealous then he's "not going to bother with her"......

I understand the open relationship thing - but I guess what I am a bit perplexed about is that he has attempted this twice with 2 different girls and once they find out that he really does go out with other women while he has a steady gf, the girls freak out, get jealous and they break up. The other 2 gf's he had was before I entered the picture.

My question is that if it has not worked out in the past, then why does he try to keep wanting to have his cake and eat it too?

Mind you, I am not worried about this, not sad or anything, I like the guy but to each their "psychoanalysis" wandering mind just wants to figure out why does he keep doing the same thing and thinking it'll produce different results