Why Did He Bother To Call

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Registered: 12-07-2006
Why Did He Bother To Call
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Wed, 07-03-2013 - 12:02am

I am puzzled a bit here. For some time now, I have been thinking about another man who i had a brief relationship with,it was brief because he was totally unable to communicate and due to the fact he was a recovering alcoholic. LSS, we have been sporadically texting each other for about a year now. About a month ago, I reached out to him to see how he was doing and he replies great. I reached out to him about a book about dealing with alcoholism etc etc and he responded well i have become a social drinker. Again LSS,but a few more texts went back and forth and he ws not addressing my need for wanting to speak directly with him. To note i broke from him and there was an abuse of texts and voicemails at the end.. so he may be gunshy a bit but that would not have happened had he been able to communicate and not block me.

 

So i sent him a text about a week and a half ago stating that i have been wanting to speak with hiim and to open about having a conversation and that i felt strongly about it. I mentioned i am very busy on the weekend as always so he wound up calling me after the weekend.. three days,wound up last wednesday. I didnt know it was hin and didnt pick up and noticed he didnt leave a message. I called him the next night didnt catch hiim didnt lve a voicemail either but did text him that i noticed he tried to reach me and i did him. that was the extent of it. That was last thursday and no messages or calls. I think he may be testing me and or waiiting like he did a week ago. He had sent me a text before i asked to be open to talk  that he did enjoy spending time with me. Didnt know if he meant the texting and or referring to our past. SOOO much unsaid and unclear and i am holding back so much to not call him.., but i dont know whether he may feel i iniitated the talk he reached  out and now i have to try and catch him i dont know!!

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Wed, 07-03-2013 - 10:35am

Maybe he doesn't want to talk to you as much as you want to talk to him, so he gave it one shot & that was it.  If you want to talk to him so much, call him.