Advice on dealing with someone who really got burned

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Registered: 07-26-2003
Advice on dealing with someone who really got burned
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Mon, 11-29-2010 - 2:26am

Just looking for some thoughts on dealing with someone who went through a very bad divorce in which his ex did every cliche bad thing to him...criticized him badly, trashed his self-esteem and eventually left him, taking his kids with her.

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Registered: 05-18-2009

How long ago did all of this transpire? And how long have you been romantically involved? I wish I had something of a timeline here.

I understand you empathize with him and you feel strongly for him, but some people might be really wonderful and not right for a relationship at this point in their lives. You say he is "very, very bitter". That's a bad sign. Is he even looking for a commitment from a woman right now?

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Registered: 07-26-2003

I probably did not make myself clear.

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Registered: 12-22-2007

>> at what point do you determine that they really do just want to be friends and that's it,<<

Hi Caracara, it's quite simple really.