Am I just misreading the whole situation?
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|Mon, 09-17-2012 - 7:00pm|
There is an older man that I work with and have become good friends with, that I am interested in dating.
We have been building our friendship for over a year now. We talk regularly outside of work via text or messaging, and talk to each other every day at work. Although he talks to me often, and I have always had the sense he is flirting a bit, he has never told me what he thinks of me...whether he finds me attractive or not. Not long ago, I got fed up and frustrated with not knowing/understanding his feelings and took it upon myself to ask him out. He accepted and we had our night out.
I had a good time, and knowing him as long as I have, there were no surprises and conversation was pretty flowing. The end of the evening though, prompted him to make a quick exit out of my car (I drove), and it just crushed my hopes that maybe we could have some small talk and finally a physical encounter....kissing or such.
I just don't understand. When he accepted my invitation out, I thought..he HAS to know that Im interested...I don't know what else to do other than blatantly telling him I am smitten. I'm a bit shy, and I have never asked a man out before, so me doing that was a big step for me outside of my comfort zone.
Now, I feel my self esteem is ravaged...and I feel maybe I should just stop thinking of the possibility at all. I know him well enough to know he can be shy...but we have always had a good time with one another. Does he just not like me? Should I just take everything off the table and look elsewhere? It's hard because we are friends...but if he isn't interested in more, I think I need to step away from this for awhile, so I can detach my feelings.