Anniversary gift from BF...

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Registered: 01-02-2004
Anniversary gift from BF...
Thu, 02-04-2010 - 8:34am
My Bf and I had our 2 year anniversary last weekend. He did take me out to a very nice dinner but when it came to gifts, I bought him a wall clock for his shop and he bought me a stuffed valentines day frog. It was cute but I was expecting alot more. We did exchange cards as well. What do you think? Am I being too greedy? I would have thought he would have gotten me something more...I am waiting patiently for an engagement ring and I thinking maybe hes saving up for it and thats why he didnt spend alot of money on an anniversary gift? My Birthday is also next month. What if your BF/Gf got you a gift like this? I know he doesnt have alot of money but I would have at least expected flowers or something with it.
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Registered: 03-08-2004
Thu, 02-04-2010 - 9:41am

I think you're being greedy, materialistic and unappreciative.

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Registered: 02-03-2010
Thu, 02-04-2010 - 10:56am

I think greedy, materialistic and unappreciative is a bit harsh. The OP is proabably a bit younger and is used to a certain level of materialism in her family and social circle.

I have been with my partner for over 2 years and while we celebrate special occassions with dinners out, and maybe a small gift,it is certainly not at the levels I see with some couples.

You should discuss this with your boyfriend, but not in a blaming or challenging way. I have found in past relationships, that as soon as I complained about a gift I received, I never did receive many more. lol.

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Registered: 05-18-2009
Thu, 02-04-2010 - 5:22pm

Does he know you are waiting for a ring?

You could be right that he's saving. I think the most important thing is that he remembered your anniversary and went out of his way to do something nice for you. The only thing he did "wrong" was not read your mind - So I would say that maybe you should make an effort to stop letting this bother you, and next time, tell him what you'd like for a present if the quality/price of a gift is very important to you.

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Registered: 12-22-2007
Thu, 02-04-2010 - 8:02pm
I think taking you out for a very nice dinner is more than enough. I certainly wouldn't complain if this was 'all' I got.
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Registered: 12-06-2009
Thu, 02-04-2010 - 10:48pm

somehow I don't get the feeling you're waiting patiently at all.

I dated a girl once who judged my by the price tag of my possessions and gifts.

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Registered: 04-12-2004
Mon, 02-15-2010 - 11:46am

I just responded to your other question and I will respond to this one too.

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Registered: 07-30-2007
Mon, 02-15-2010 - 6:28pm

I think you guys are missing communication.

For Valentines day, my bf (of 2.5 years) and I went to a fancy dinner and exchanged cards.

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Registered: 08-01-2006
Mon, 02-15-2010 - 7:51pm

My thoughts are that you're being materialistic. Please be thankful that he remembered your anniversary. He took you out to a nice dinner, and put some thought into the stuffed animal. He could be saving up to get you a ring, and the money would be put to something better. Do you know for a fact that he is looking/planning on getting married soon? If not, please don't get your hopes up to high for a birthday engagement.

Have you ever talked with him about gift giving? And just what kind of gifts you expect?

Why do you expect flowers or something more instead of just a dinner? There is no law that says you have to spend a lot of money on special occassions. Just being together ought to be good enough.

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Registered: 12-28-2007
Mon, 02-15-2010 - 8:12pm

Hi - I don't think you are being greedy.

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Registered: 12-24-2009
Tue, 02-16-2010 - 5:33am
I think you are being greedy. You have only been together for 2 years and your not even married. Why are you putting a price tag on your relationship?