Any chance I will hear from him again?

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Registered: 10-17-2008
Any chance I will hear from him again?
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Sat, 12-03-2011 - 4:39pm

Long story condenced into a few sentences: really good friends with a guy for years. He started heavily pursuing me this summer for months, said he had always liked me (the feeling was mutual). We decided to date. Everything was great (and I'm not just saying that - he told me all the time how happy he was, and I was too).

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Registered: 10-18-2009
Sat, 12-03-2011 - 6:05pm

He needs some cooling off period. Even if he comes back, I suggest you take it really really cautiously, because you don't want to be a rebound. Maybe that's what he's thinking too; not using an old friend as rebound.

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Registered: 10-17-2008
Sat, 12-03-2011 - 7:54pm

Yes, I definitely would be cautious with him.

We had the rebound discussion before we started dating and he assured me he was ready for a relationship with someone else (he had had several "rebounds" in the previous year). I don't know what happened. Maybe he realized he was not ready to be with someone else and the pull of history was too strong? Whatever happened, he went about it in a horrible way. I know he can't be friends with me while he's back with his ex. I don't know if he is still with her, but I just hope this isn't the end of any sort of civil relationship we can have. Sometimes I just have such a strong urge to just text him "I miss you". I wonder if they will last this third time around?

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Registered: 02-08-2011
Sun, 12-04-2011 - 10:03am

Wow, what a wimp this guy is. Even looking at keeping

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Registered: 10-17-2008
Sun, 12-04-2011 - 10:47am

Completely a wimp and a coward. I don't know what's wrong with him. He was extremely comfortable expressing positive things during our time together, and extremely reluctant to talk about negative things (this dates back to the time of his divorce, where even though we were friends and