Bf says he doesn't care for sex?

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Bf says he doesn't care for sex?
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Sun, 10-17-2010 - 9:45am

Hi,

Hollie

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Registered: 01-12-2005
Fri, 10-22-2010 - 2:30pm

I don't think the problem is that he doesn't want to have sex with you or doesn't find you desirable, because you said when you do have it, he's very into it and makes you feel wonderful, so I think the problem is narrowed down to you *feel* he doesn't want you or desire you because he doesn't do the initiating anymore.

And that's a terrible place for a woman to be in, to have to be the one to do all the initiating, especially when we're bombarded with the ideas that men desire sex regularly, even though we know intellectually and logically that that isn't the case and isn't the only barometer by which to measure our relationship or desirability.

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Fri, 10-22-2010 - 2:34pm
Oopsie, didn't see this one before I replied, but I'm glad we're on the same wavelength '-) and glad he definitely acted on what you talked about with him. It's so important to see that we do really matter to them in that way, that what we says resonates with the ones we love. I'm happy for you :)

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Mon, 11-01-2010 - 2:56pm
A year and a half into a relationship isn't long... so if it were me, this would be a problem. As the previous poster said, if you're both happy with the frequency of your sexual encounters, then all is well. However, if you're feeling the need for more intimacy, his ambivalence in this area might be a long term compatability issue. Sorry if that sounds harsh, but that's my 2 cents.

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