Boyfriend is acting distant, but says we're okay...

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Registered: 03-12-2011
Boyfriend is acting distant, but says we're okay...
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Sat, 03-12-2011 - 11:43pm

Hello,

I'm writing because I keep feeling emotional and I don't know if I can trust my judgement anymore.

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Registered: 12-22-2007

Hi Ifysh, I can understand some of your concerns, but other concerns seem to be looking for things to be upset about.

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Registered: 03-12-2011
true.blue.strine wrote:

Hi Ifysh, I can understand some of your concerns, but other concerns seem to be looking for things to be upset about.

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Registered: 05-18-2009

To me, all of these point to two possible conclusions..

1) He is extremely overwhelmed with his life and unable to express it in a constructive way.

2) He's falling out of love with you.

My guess would be that it's 2), as I've often seen this behavior from men when this is the case. I'm also taking this guess because he lies that he has work to do and ends up playing video games or being by himself. But if this is so, then he's not sure of whether or not he wants to leave the relationship so he's telling you things are fine so that he can have time to figure things out.

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Registered: 12-22-2007

Hi Ifysh, thanks for the extra information - it really helps.