cant tell if he likes me?

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Registered: 06-22-2009
cant tell if he likes me?
Tue, 03-09-2010 - 1:52am

i met this guy who is good freinds with my cousin, i have had a crush on him since i was 13 and im 24 now. i never really seen him that much and i dont no him that well but last weekend i went over to my cousins house and he was there. we were all drinking and he kept flirting with me and hitting on me.

well he already knows that i had a crush on him for a long time,, anyway buy the end of the night niether one of us could drive home so we had to stay there. there was a spare bed in the basement and when me and him got down there i asked him if he was gonna sleep on the floor and i get the bed so the next thing i no he climbs into bed with me and he cuddles up next to me and put his arms around me and he told me i smelt good and he could get used to that and than he went to sleep.

well the next i got up and left before he got up and later on he texted me, so we have been talking for a few days now, well we have been texting each other. but i just dont no if he actually likes me or just wants to be friends. see to me in a way he seems like the player type cause i no he has been with alot of girls. and he hasnt asked me out or anything. whenever he texts me he always calls me homegirl or he always says stuff like whats up girlfriend so i just dont understand him. i just got out of a long relastionship and i dont want to get my heart broken again. so i dont no what to do about this guy?

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Tue, 03-09-2010 - 7:35am
You just got out of a relationship, so please do not just jump right into another one. Ask him what he's looking for. Is it a friendship, a relationship, of just a FWB? Why not just take this time to be friends and actually get to know each other?

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Registered: 07-22-2008
Tue, 03-09-2010 - 9:23pm
homegirl? girlfriend? Sounds like he wants to be friends, but you never know. Don't count anything that happens when people are drunk, so take the time to become friends and see what happens. He already knows you like him.
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Registered: 10-18-2001
Tue, 03-09-2010 - 9:47pm

Homegirl? Whats up? Sounds like he's being cheeky but friendly. Certainly not tongue tied and nervous like he really is head-over-heels about you - but I could be wrong. Plenty of guys can be cheeky but completely smitten too. There isn't enough information for us just yet either.

Look, I'd say that you're safe to assume that he quite likes you, would have sex with you if the time and place was right, but isn't interested in pursuing you enough to have a serious relationship. Basically, if you showed him that you were interested in him then you wouldn't look stupid even if you'd read things a little wrong and he turned you down.

However, if in the future he seems to be more interested in you than chasing other girls then yeah, he might be interested in a relationship. Time wil tell. Don't sleep with him until you feel comfortable - which may take some time since you've just come out of another relationship.

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Registered: 06-22-2009
Wed, 03-10-2010 - 8:42am
thanks for the advice, i dont really wanna jump into a new relastionship but i do like this guy alot. and everyday when he gets off work he texts me, and dosent stop texting me till he goes to bed. me and him and my cousin are all going out this weekend and this guy keeps telling me that we will wait and see how things go, he said last night that he maybe likes me to and thinks im sweet. so i asked him what he wanted to happen this weekend and he didnt say he just asked me what i wanted so i said to have a good time and maybe him. he just said for me to have a great night and that i knew what he meant? he also told me last night that i was pretty hot to but i think he was just trying to be nice. anyway i just dont want to get my hopes up and than be turned down cause i do like him. and the other night he told my cousin that he didnt want to come on to strong to me and scare me away. so is that a good sign? anyway thanks again for the advice