Casual sex for the first time.

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Registered: 09-14-2010
Casual sex for the first time.
Tue, 09-14-2010 - 9:15pm

A couple of days ago I had my first casual sex experience.

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Registered: 01-04-2006
Wed, 09-15-2010 - 12:00am

Whats normal in sex? This man was extremely hard core fast paced and sex involved hair pulling, slapping and strong eye contact. But Are these common sexual practices?"

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Registered: 03-08-2004
Wed, 09-15-2010 - 7:42am

There is no normal or abnormal.

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Registered: 08-01-2006
Wed, 09-15-2010 - 9:48am

There is no normal to it. It's all what the two consenting adults agree with. If something was done that you did not like, you should have told him to stop. You do not need to participate in anything that you do not want to.

Sounds like he's into rough sex. Did you know this beforehand? Is it something you like? If not, before meeting again, if you decide to, these issues need to be talked about.

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Registered: 08-31-2009
Thu, 09-16-2010 - 11:49am
Hair pulling, biting, and slapping definitely does not work for me. But, it is something a lot of people like. I briefly dated a guy who was into that. I told him I absolutely did NOT like it. So, it is definitely fine to tell a guy you aren't into certain sexual behaviors. I've never really had a FWB (I'd get too attached and want more). I've had casual sex (I can do a one-night stand once in a while but not a FWB), but generally, I tend to seek out relationships. But from knowing of others who have done these sorts of things, and from reading articles and the boards, I can say I agree with the others who have said there is no "playbook." It just goes how it goes. There's no way to predict what would happen.