casual sex relationship... discussing others?

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Registered: 11-26-2012
casual sex relationship... discussing others?
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Wed, 12-19-2012 - 7:05am

Me and a guy are casual... So one day I texted

Me:  What u up to today?

Him:  Hanging with my other lady friend

I know we are casual but still... 

What's up from a guy's perspective? Is he just completely rude and so full of himself? 

He's 26 years old btw. no clue if age matters.

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Registered: 11-28-1999

That is kind of insensitive but if you both agreed to date others then you can't really complain about it.  You could tell him that you don't need to know the details.

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Registered: 08-09-2012

melanielovessun wrote:
<p>Me and a guy are casual... So one day I texted</p><p><em>Me:  What u up to today?</em></p><p><em>Him:  Hanging with my other lady friend</em></p><p>I know we are casual but still... </p><p>What's up from a guy's perspective? Is he just completely rude and so full of himself? </p><p>He's 26 years old btw. no clue if age matters.</p>

I fail to see what's wrong with that.  

He said he was hanging with his other lady friend. 

his age has nothing to do with anything.  Maybe a casual relationship isn't for you.

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Registered: 01-25-2010

Hi  Welcome to the board 

It means that he is with another female.  Nothing more.  Perhaps less than sensitive but true.  Now he did not elaborate on what with meant. 

   What did you want?

chaika

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Registered: 12-05-2010

People have different sensitivity/jealousy threshholds. For instance, I can talk freely about ex-girlfriends and notice good looking women without disturbng my wife. However, one former girlfriend in particular would go nuts if I did the same around her.

Since you are pointedly not exclusive, you really can't hold it against the guy. As Musiclover12 suggested, just tell him that in the future he should spare you the details.

One further thing I need to mention. If you're sensitive to him being with other women, is a FWB relationship really for you? As Kendahke said, I would give this serious thought.

 

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Registered: 11-24-2012
That's just plain insensitive. FWB then that's what you are asking for but he could have responded out with a friend. I could never knowingly do FWB
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Registered: 08-08-2012

If you are just casual then it shouldn't matter if he is hanging out with a guy friend or girl friend.

Are you just sensitive to the fact he said that it was a female friend he was hanging out with? or do you think he should have said "just hanging out with a friend" ?