CHEATING

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Registered: 06-18-2009
CHEATING
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Tue, 02-16-2010 - 4:22pm

I have a question!!!! Do guys consider contact on the internet as

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Registered: 03-08-2004
In reply to: lookin4happiness
Tue, 02-16-2010 - 6:01pm

It depends on

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Registered: 09-30-2007
In reply to: lookin4happiness
Tue, 02-16-2010 - 7:47pm
Would make me upset and I'm a guy. I don't think that type of contact has a place in a relationship. At least not mine! Emotional infidelity is just as bad as physical in my book. I would certainly consider that cheating IMHO
 
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Registered: 12-06-2009
In reply to: lookin4happiness
Tue, 02-16-2010 - 8:35pm

Exactly what kind of contact is bothering you so deeply?


If you expect us to never, ever, acknowledge another woman then you're in for a long and unhappy ride.

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Registered: 08-01-2006
In reply to: lookin4happiness
Tue, 02-16-2010 - 8:37pm
Everyone is different. You need to discuss this as a couple and come to an understanding of what is acceptable and what is not.



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Registered: 06-18-2009
In reply to: lookin4happiness
Wed, 02-17-2010 - 12:30pm

You are right! But the part that bothers me is flirtin online with complete strangers. True I have a few male friends and he has a few female friends and I'm okay with that as long as it stays as friends. We are both ok with the fact that ok you can be attracted to a person but not act on it and we express that. That is my real problem it is not like some random person that walks by or you see out and about and say oh shes attractive or hes handsome.

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Registered: 03-08-2004
In reply to: lookin4happiness
Wed, 02-17-2010 - 1:03pm

Have you talked to him about

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Registered: 06-18-2009
In reply to: lookin4happiness
Wed, 02-17-2010 - 3:36pm
Yes! We have talked. And we both agreed that we felt like cheating is more than just physical. We just moved back in together again. We were living together and we broke up and now we are back together. He says he loves me and only wants to be with me and that I'm the one. I believe that he loves me but I must admit that I have trouble about worrying about things and past things that has happened with me (not just in my relationship with him). And I saw that he was conversing with people online cause I was being nosey. It just made me feel like why is he talkin to random people even if its just hello.
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Registered: 03-08-2004
In reply to: lookin4happiness
Wed, 02-17-2010 - 4:18pm

Yes, I agree, cheating doesn't necessarily mean physical, it can be emotional cheating but there's a difference between sexual talking on line/emotional cheating

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Registered: 10-29-2006
In reply to: lookin4happiness
Wed, 02-17-2010 - 5:03pm

"And I saw that he was conversing with people online cause I was being nosey."

Apparently, you had trust issues before you found out so either: a)there is more reason than his online communication that has caused you to distrust him or b)you are looking for a reason to justify your own unfounded insecurities so you can project "blame" onto him.

Either way, the issue of his internet activity is a symptom of the real problem, not the problem itself. Start by asking yourself why you felt the need to snoop in the first place and, if you are honest with yourself, you will find the answers you are looking for.

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Registered: 06-18-2009
In reply to: lookin4happiness
Wed, 02-17-2010 - 5:52pm
I never so it like that! That I was in a sense doing the same thing. I guess I felt like because I was on a forum and

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