cheating trends

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Registered: 09-21-2006
cheating trends
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Tue, 06-29-2010 - 11:31am
Hello.. I would like input on some things. The last two guys I've dated have told me they were cheated on in previous relationships. While during our relationship neither ever had any reason to question me and both told me I was exactly the kind of woman they were searching for (the whole package) etc. So my question is why did both of these pretend they were
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Registered: 08-01-2006
In reply to: xoxo_girl
Tue, 06-29-2010 - 11:47am

I can't begin to imagine what any or all men would think as they are all different. Maybe they just wanted you to fee lbead for them, maybe they were just using you to get what they wanted.


So, because they were cheated on in the past, (supposedly) they felt it was ok to cheat on you? Sounds like a couple of losers to me. You should be glad you're rid of them.



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Registered: 01-25-2010
In reply to: xoxo_girl
Tue, 06-29-2010 - 10:21pm
Sometimes it become a role. To say Gf/BF because many do not know how to express their inner feelings. Also since "relationship(s)" cover such a wide ground it can be that there were differences in definition.
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Registered: 09-14-2007
In reply to: xoxo_girl
Wed, 06-30-2010 - 7:08am

"GUYS" don't just assume if they've been cheated on, others will cheat.

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Registered: 02-14-2007
In reply to: xoxo_girl
Fri, 07-02-2010 - 7:28pm
They are both jerks - and you need to look at why you are attracting the same kind of guy - the

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Registered: 05-18-2009
In reply to: xoxo_girl
Fri, 07-09-2010 - 8:57am
Remember that first impressions, the things a guy says to you when you're just dating, are meant to TEST YOU. They want to test your reactions to the things they say and do. If they intend to cheat from the start, they want to test how easy it's going to be with you. I agree this is not a difference between men and women, because we are equally capable of deceit, but since you are a woman, be wary of statements like "you're exactly what I'm looking for". It doesn't mean anything until he's really gotten to know you, and it's very possible that a man is using that phrase as a way to get you to let down your guard. I don't know how long you were dating these guys before they cheated, but that would make a big difference.