Close/distant tug of war
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|Mon, 10-18-2010 - 11:16pm|
This is in relation to platonic male friends, not a dating situation...
Why do some men have moments when they voluntarily (on their own, out of no where) open up about personal stuff, and act like you are a friend they truly value, and then soon after do a 180 and become distant and impersonal? This has happened a lot in my friendship history - only with men - and it baffles me. I'd like to avoid this, because it hurts when I try to be there for them, only to have them turn away when I am touched that it seems like we are reaching a deeper level of friendship... then as soon as I figure it was a fluke and that we just aren't really that close, these guys have another "intimate disclosure moment." Any ideas about why men act like this, and what I should do when this happens?