commitment-phobe? is that even real?
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|Mon, 03-08-2010 - 4:11pm|
I recently had a guy friend tell me that his friend and roommate, whom I have been dating casually for about two months, is a total commitment-phobe and that I shouldn't waste my time if I'm looking for anything remotely serious. My friend also said, quote "I know he likes you, and you shouldn't take his hot/cold behavior personally....but he's really weird about relationships."
I'm taking my friend's input seriously...but I have to wonder - is being "afraid of commitment" REALLY an issue for some guys or is it more of an excuse for bad behavior and/or just not being that into whatever girl they are currently seeing?
I just feel like it's such a dumb thing...in this day and age...haven't we moved past such stereotypes? The answer doesn't really have much bearing on my situation (I'm not particularly invested in this guy and he'd been walking the line of acceptable dating behavior anyway, so a recent incident gave me the perfect excuse to end things amicably before anyone (ME) got hurt), but I'm just curious to hear from the men and women who may have experienced this phenomenon before. How does a 29 year old guy who seems in every way normal (parents are together, older brother doesn't seem to have issues) end up being a total commitment-phobe who hasn't had a girlfriend in at least three years and shows ridiculously hot/cold behavior with girls that he supposedly likes? It's just weird.