Commitment is scary!
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|Mon, 07-26-2010 - 11:28am|
I've been dating a guy for 2 years. For the past 6 months he's constantly said that he doesn't know what to do with his life. He wants to do this, he wants to do that, he wants to go live in a tent... he won't make up his mind.
I've decided that I want to move back home because I haven't been with my family in almost 6 years, haven't seen then in 5. I've talked about this with him, and he says he supports that decision, and that he'd like to go with me.
The big deal is that he refuses to commit to me. I feel that I have compromised a few things, gone without a few things, all so that I could stay with him. I don't regret that at all. So it hurts big time when this guy says something that boils down to 'you're cramping my style' and 'I want to keep my options open.'
He has told me for two years that he would enjoy being old with me. I am not asking for marriage. I'm asking for a commitment, a promise that we will work together, so that in a few years we can both be in a position to enjoy life to the fullest. It seems to be that he doesn't want to even entertain the idea if it involves anything uncomfortable for him.
What the hell am I supposed to do? I've stuck by this man for two years despite life throwing things at us. He's stuck by me despite me going insane because of some medication I took (I'm all better). Why the sudden change of heart?