Confused

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Registered: 11-05-2012
Confused
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Sat, 11-17-2012 - 9:10pm

Hi,

So I am a tad confused.  I went out with my guy yesterday for dinner and during the conversation we started talking about how I am still looking for a room mate and am covering that part of the rent.  I am totally one of those people that have too much pride and never ask for help and he knows this and to say the least it drives him nuts. From this he proactively offered to help with it to make it easier for me which was super sweet.  Then he asked "well, do you want to come over to my house tomorrow and you can grab that money or I can come over your place" to which I said "yea whatever works, we can figure it out."  Then he walked me to my car hugged and kissed me and asked again, "so we are on for tomorrow, right?" and I said "of course." From that conversation I thought that we would be hanging out at some point today, just not sure on when,  I text him just asking him if he was cool with watching a movie and having wine with me and hadn't heard back in a while so I called him.  He tells me when we are talking that he just thought that I was coming by to pick up the cash that we talked about from last night and didn't realize that we were doing anything else.  Really?? I felt like an idiot on the phone lol.  He said that he was just doing some running around and dealing with some things that were going on at his house.  I asked if he was alright and he just told me we could talk later but wow. He just asked me like 3 times last night if we were on for today and I just...am confused.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
In reply to: Wondering29
Sun, 11-18-2012 - 11:02am

It just seems like a simple misunderstanding.  He originally asked you if you were going to come by & get the money, right?  He didn't say "let's go to the movies tomorrow" or anything like that.  You thought he meant to spend time together but he had stuff to do so he was only going to meet you to exchange the money.  I don't see what the issue is.