confused...

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Registered: 05-31-2011
confused...
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Tue, 05-31-2011 - 1:12pm

I started seeing this guy about a month ago.

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Registered: 12-22-2007
Mon, 06-06-2011 - 3:53am

>>So am I supposed to assume, which I HATE doing, that he doesn't want anything now? Also he said that this is his busiest time for work right now. ........<<

Hon, don't assume anything - it's really not required.

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Registered: 11-06-2008
Mon, 06-06-2011 - 12:15am

What YOU dont want to happen is for him to dissapear...what if HE needs to dissapear for awhile.

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Registered: 05-31-2011
Fri, 06-03-2011 - 3:25pm

I understand why you say that....

But, how do you know when it's better to back off or not?

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-06-2008
Fri, 06-03-2011 - 2:53pm

Do your own life give him space...giving a man space is the best thing to do when he has stuff going on. Keep yourslef open to dating others.

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Registered: 05-31-2011
Fri, 06-03-2011 - 12:35pm
I don't mind tha he's going slower than I am used to...I just don't know how to deal with it. That sounds bad I know. But hes so different than anything that im used to. It makes me scared that he's going to use me or that he has no intention of this going anywhere. I do!! But I don't know with him going slow, wha the boundaries are or what to expect. What I should or shouldn't do or say. I feel like im doing everything wrong and just screwing this up. I need him to talk to me but I don't know how to make him feel comfortable enough to. I wish he would just do it!! :( im hopeless....I know. But u appreciate all the input.
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Registered: 05-31-2011
Fri, 06-03-2011 - 12:27pm
Well I really don't know what to do or think right now. We went from talking everyday to me not hearing from him since wednesday night, and that was my initiation.
I want to say something to him, anything just hi. But I don't know if I should. My aunt always tells me if a man wants you he will call or whatever. And when I asked him a while ago if he was interested he said "im talking to you aren't I" and that's not exactly the kind of thing a girl likes to hear ya know. But we kept talking and occasionally seeing each other. So am I supposed to assume, which I HATE doing, that he doesn't want anything now? Also he said that this is his busiest time for work right now. So is he just busy or does he want nothin to do with me now?? I don't want to push and ask him if we're. I feel stupid doing that. But how long am I supposed to wait to see if he says anytjinng to me at all? All we do is text so of he's busy...it only takes a second to do. I don't want to be the first one to say something tohimright now. I really really want him to come to me. But I don't know how long I can wait. Im already frustrated. We talked everyday.....:(
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Registered: 11-06-2008
Thu, 06-02-2011 - 11:13pm

keep in mind how simple mninded men can be...they are really really bad at muti tasking. He can pnly concentrate on one thing at a time. If he can do 2...WOW!!!

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Registered: 04-25-2011
Thu, 06-02-2011 - 3:57pm

Please don;t talk to him about it - and some people start opening up right away - and some don't - just take it easy and enjoy your everyday life - and don't sleep with him! - LOL

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Registered: 05-31-2011
Thu, 06-02-2011 - 3:17pm

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Registered: 11-06-2008
Thu, 06-02-2011 - 10:33am

As a single mom with 99% custady of the kids I am going to tell you right now...you are not a priority if you want to be #1 you are with the wrong guy. You others you have dated maybe didnt put thier kids as first as much as this guy does..1st youve only been dating a month. 2nd you are to far wrapped up in him. 3rd maybe you should have held off on sleeping with him while you were confussed...lesson learned. True intamacy does come with time a lot of time and he is going slow he has kids to think about.

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