Deting question

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Registered: 08-27-2005
Deting question
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Sun, 05-29-2011 - 3:00am

I just met someone who I reconnected with on Facebook after not seeing them for 30 years. the guy lives in another country while I live in our country. I mentioned on here, maybe on the Single Life board that i was searching for a partner. In fact, I have been praying for one for the longest while. the guy who I reconnected with is divorced, and single. we have been talking on the phone every day and texting each other for one week now. we are really getting to know each other and I like him and I sense that he likes me too. i call this Stage 1-getting to know each other. In one instant messaging conversation, he asked me if there is an interest, in other words if I was interested in him. I told him yes. Of course, I asked him back the same question. He answered and said when he sees me, he will discuss it.

k2002

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Registered: 08-27-2005
In reply to: k2002
Fri, 06-03-2011 - 6:31pm

Hey thanks Sandra for your advice. Much appreciated.

k2002
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In reply to: k2002
Thu, 06-02-2011 - 11:38pm

(we walk,ghost and never heard from ) people should never ghost....if theres a woman playing these games...look her straight in the face and say I wont play these games good bye!! People need to call people on their BS

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Registered: 01-25-2010
In reply to: k2002
Thu, 06-02-2011 - 2:17pm

I agree with everything except the last sentence.

"Don't worry, guys actually like competing for what they really want...IF they really want it."

dragowoman

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Registered: 01-12-2005
In reply to: k2002
Thu, 06-02-2011 - 8:15am
....."I just don't want to be disappointged again.".....

It's apparent you're letting your fears drag you along here, getting ahead of yourself. No one wants to be disappointed in life, but you can't hold your fears over what other people may or may not do, may or may not mean, etc.

There are so many examples of relationships not working out due to lack of chemistry even when the tech-based part (IM, phone, chat, video chat, email) was working out just great. By the same token, there are plenty of O-L-D relationships that happily make the transition to real-life, and I personally know quite a few people who went that route too.

But there's no way to really know ahead of time (before meeting, especially) if there's going to be a romantic spark on top of personal interest between two people who meet- or reconnect- online.

In the meantime, don't take yourself off the local market for someone who hasn't even expressed a true romantic interest in you. THAT is probably the very worst disservice you could do to yourself in this situation. Don't worry, guys actually like competing for what they really want...IF they really want it.

Good luck!

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Registered: 08-27-2005
In reply to: k2002
Tue, 05-31-2011 - 10:54pm

"BF does not equal exclusivity esp if it is a long distance relationship.

k2002
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Registered: 01-25-2010
In reply to: k2002
Tue, 05-31-2011 - 3:22am

The only way of being disappointed is to place the dream state so far above reality.

PS "relationship does not mean not interacting with friends and lovers.

dragowoman

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Registered: 08-27-2005
In reply to: k2002
Mon, 05-30-2011 - 10:44pm

k2002
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Registered: 01-25-2010
In reply to: k2002
Sun, 05-29-2011 - 11:33pm

Hi

dragowoman

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Registered: 08-27-2005
In reply to: k2002
Sun, 05-29-2011 - 5:27pm

He is actually planning on coming to our country to see me.

k2002
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Registered: 08-27-2005
In reply to: k2002
Sun, 05-29-2011 - 5:23pm

oh my goodness. thanks for your response.

k2002

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