Did I lose a friend? What should I do?

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Registered: 01-22-2012
Did I lose a friend? What should I do?
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Sun, 01-22-2012 - 11:39pm

Me and a male coworker started hanging out at the end of last summer. Both of us felt we could talk to each other and we had things in common. The problem was we ended up hooking up and he cheated on his girlfriend with me.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Mon, 01-23-2012 - 3:47pm

I think you should just stick to being work friends and don't expect more--maybe have lunch but don't text him or expect to hang out after work or outside of work.

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Mon, 01-23-2012 - 5:04pm

IMO step back and become work friends only.

dragowoman

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Registered: 01-22-2012
Mon, 01-23-2012 - 8:24pm

He said he did not tell her who he cheated on her with and that she knows he text messages me sometimes. He says it's because she would get on his case about screwing around with people at work.

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Registered: 01-22-2012
Mon, 01-23-2012 - 8:50pm

I found out later when he got back with his girlfriend.

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Mon, 01-23-2012 - 8:57pm

Aye it certainly would. Sorry but given the history he will become a work friend only.

dragowoman

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Mon, 01-23-2012 - 10:33pm

I agree that kissing & touching would be considered cheating by most people.

Now you really have to stop throwing yourself at someone who isn't your BF and thinking that it's going to work out great--even considering that you still thought he was broken up w/ his GF.

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Registered: 01-22-2012
Tue, 01-24-2012 - 4:17am

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Registered: 01-22-2012
Tue, 01-24-2012 - 4:18am

I also tend to keep asking him what is wrong with me and looking at the past to some things asking a lot of questions.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Tue, 01-24-2012 - 11:03am

Yes--what guy wants to be w/ a pathetic girl who doesn't have a good self image (and the same would be true for men)?

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Tue, 01-24-2012 - 12:12pm

Hi

dragowoman

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