Did I ruin everything, or am I just imagining things.

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Registered: 02-08-2011
Did I ruin everything, or am I just imagining things.
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Mon, 01-23-2012 - 6:30pm

I have this close friend who I have always liked and never had the guts to tell. I can't read him. Sometimes I think he's really into me and then he does things that make me think no way. The problem is that according to my friends I act very similarly in that I am someone who is extremely hard to read.

Since I came back from Christmas Holiday, I have found that he was being more aggressive than usual about making plans. e do a lot of stuff one on one and tell each other a lot of things about where we see ourselves in the future, he's opened up to me about his family, about his problems, he's even expressed interest in meeting my family and planning trips together. The thing is we have never even kissed, let alone hook up.

Cut to two weekends ago when we spent the entire day together, followed by him making me dinner and then us going out in the city with some of his friends. The night ended up being a tad dramatic. I was getting tired and started googling my route home when he mentioned he couldn't find a cab. The girl who had the pre-drink mentioned he could crash on her sofa but he didn't seem into it so he asked if he could come home with me and sleep on my couch. I said that he could but the problem was that my roommates would not be okay with a random on the couch so he's have to sleep in my room, to which he said okay whatever I'll sleep on your floor. So I am thinking based on that comment he's not into me. Cut to our three hour journey home later... my room is way too small for someone to sleep on the floor so he sleeps in my bed.

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Registered: 11-28-1999

I am not even sure what you think you did wrong?

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-21-2011

lmao, "passyouty"...I am so using that one next time I have too much wine with SO (its always his fault anyway, he over serves me).

You didn't do anything wrong, I think he may have some feelings for you - do another dinner night and see what happens

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Registered: 01-25-2010

You did everything right.

dragowoman

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Registered: 03-17-2007
I agree....if I am invited as a guest, I take it as a simple invitation. I do believe the host should make the first move in that situation, otherwise I will end up feeling like I took advantage of a situation.
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Community Leader
Registered: 01-25-2010

In that the host is male the female must communicate what is wanted.

dragowoman

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Registered: 02-08-2011

It's interesting getting male's opinions on this. I haven't seen him since a few Saturdays ago when the elephant was in the room. I have noticed that since the night in question he's been really distant with texts/fbs ect.

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Registered: 03-17-2007

This is an interesting one, but for me the clue might be the line about "he has or has had

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Community Leader
Registered: 01-25-2010

IMO you will need to be assertive with this guy.

dragowoman

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Registered: 02-08-2011

o be honest I do know what I want I want to date him, but I just feel as though I am in a catch 22 with him. He's so important to me as a friend that I am way too afraid to tell him how I feel because I dont want to make things awkward. Things are already not looking good. Every-time I see him now I completely miserable because I feel so trapped in the situation.

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Registered: 01-25-2010

Decide on fishing or cut bait.

dragowoman

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