Do all men HATE talking?
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|Wed, 04-21-2010 - 9:02pm|
I don't mean my question to be insulting...it's actually a serious inquiry. Basically I am on the verge of divorce, with one of the major reasons being my husband doesn't want to talk to me. Now, there are times when I may talk to much, but in general, I don't think I talk more than an average person. I'm getting tired of feeling like I'm just annoying to him.
On an average weekend day we spend maybe 3 hours together (if we are not working) where we are 1 on 1 and that usually includes a car ride which is often silent. He basically told me this evening that he thinks I should spend more time out so I get to talk to others. I understand his point and I do go out with friends and family and have coworkers that I talk to every day.....I guess I expected to be able to speak to my husband as well and I expect that there are things that I only want to talk to him about.
This issue also comes up when we have problems to discuss or decisions to make...he can't talk about things. When we got married he promised to work on communication - that has not happened...years of therapy hasn't gotten us anywhere.
I am hopeful that there is someone who could care for me enough that the actually enjoy spending time with me and yes, occasionally talking to me (heaven forbid).
I'm not sure how much more I can take. There is no communication, no affection and there's been no sex for a year...before that about once every few months. I can't figure out why he is with me.
Are there men who enjoy talking to their wives?
thanks for listening