Do guys ever test you?
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|Fri, 09-19-2003 - 10:56am|
I was dating a guy for a while... he was treating me 100% perfectly...I mean 100%. He asked to see me more frequently at one point (after he pursued me for a few weeks and we had been dating about a month, to whcih I agreed). Things were going smoothly, or so I thought.
At the end of probably our 7th date, I mentioned that I wish he could sleep over that night b/c I wanted to spend more time with him that night (fool around) but he couldn't b/c he had to wake up early...so he said "Why don't you skip going away this weekend with your frineds so we can hang out?" (I was going to a summer share house every other weekend. My response to his question was a laugh and said "Are you crazy? No way!" (I know this wasn't the best move but we had only been dating a couple of months and I payed about $3,000 for 6 weekends out there, which I don't know if he knows how expensive it was but he knows how much I liked going out there wiht my friends).
I feel that it was around this time that he started to pull back slightly... we saw eachother a couple of more times, but I could sense a change in his effort he was putting out. His calls became less frequent and then he asked me out fot a date that he never followed up on. When I bumped into him, he pretended like he totally forgot about even asking me about it and it was the end of our dating.
Now, during this whole time- he was really acting perfect. And he pursued me for a while...I never called him...and it was the kind of attraction that was really growing rather than 'hot' from the start. I was responding to him physically, however, in fact I was a little more pushy with going forward sexually than I think he was really ready for.
Do you think the question about staying home to hang out with him that weekend was a test? (that i failed, obviosuly). Do you think the tapering calls were an attempt to gauge my interest and see if I would call him? I never called him throughout the relationship (only returned calls). Do you think it's possible that he thought I was using him for sex???
Thank you so much for any help you can provide!