does my text sound DESPERATE?

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-22-2009
does my text sound DESPERATE?
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Thu, 11-18-2010 - 3:52pm

i met this guy online and within a week we went on our first coffee date last thurs and it lasted 3 hours. it was great.

we made plans to meet on monday night but didnt say when & where yet ; then the SIM card in my phone was fried all weekend and his cell was left at friends place so we didnt get in contact til mon nite when we both had other plans.

so then he said we should meet on thurs for dinner. then this morning (thurs) he texts me saying he hurt his back in rugby on tues nite and was hoping it'd be better by today but isnt.... i was pretty upset but texted him saying " oh that's too bad about your back! hope you get better soon :) if you're smart you can still take me out monday...and if not, at least you still have your looks lol"

and that was it. he didnt respond yet and it's been...9 hrs! he's a teacher and works til 5 but come on, now it's 10 pm...although he takes a day to answer texts... not a good sign either maybe. (once he texted me within 5 mins but it was when i kne whe had his phone)

was that text horrible? like TAKE ME OUT PLEASE. he s the one who wanted to meet tonite sooo.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-18-2009
Thu, 11-18-2010 - 4:50pm

There wasn't anything wrong with the content of your text at ALL, but when you text someone, you give them the option of responding at their convenience, so if you need to hear back right away then call, don't text.

He'll either get back to you or he won't but if I were you I'd remove texting as my primary method of communication because it's too easy for someone to ignore/miss/totally not get a text.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-21-2008
Thu, 11-18-2010 - 10:52pm

If you made plans to meet on Monday then why would you BOTH have other plans on Monday when you finally did get in contact?

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-22-2009
Fri, 11-19-2010 - 5:11am

well he texted me on sat but didnt get a reply til monday afternoon, not knowing my SIM card was fried and my phone wasnt working so he likely thought i wasnt interested, and made other plans.

as for me, i texted him monday morning and didnt hera back from him til 9 on monday nite but only waited around til 6 to hear from him then moved on and yeah the rugby thing im not buying so !@#$ it already.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-22-2009
Sun, 11-21-2010 - 7:50am

he texted me this morning and said "

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-03-2003
Sun, 11-21-2010 - 8:38pm

sorry, didn't see there were a few replies from the OP.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
Mon, 11-22-2010 - 11:15am

Why are you giving the guy a hard time for saying that his phone didn't work when you just said you couldn't reply to him for 2 days because your phone didn't work?