Dying for some womanly advice.
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|Sat, 08-17-2013 - 7:35pm|
Yeah, I'm a girl but in the past few months I've lost a lot of girlfriends and have been craving for someone to talk to.
I'm four months into a relationship with a guy I met online. I met him when I relocated somewhere I REALLY didn't wanted to be, was lonely because my move essentially zapped out my entire social life and just wanted a new friend. But he turned out to be someone who was there for me when I really needed him and he's helped me through a ton of stuff including being robbed and losing everything. He wanted me to stay with him and get on my feet which took me a while to make a decision on but I ulimately figured it couldn't hurt. Now, jobless and really lacking a lot of resources because my money is SUPER tight I've been freaking out about a lot of things that I'm sure wouldn't be a problem if I had a job.
First, he has him online dating profile up STILL. He gave me some weird answer like "oh, my friend wanted to talk to my ex blahblahblah" Like, really though? This is the same dude that didn't talk to me for 48 hours because my childhood friend "Mike" texted me because he was worried because he hadn't seen me in months...literally months. My BF has lots of girls that are friends so the hypocrisy is really making me resent him. Just because it says "not looking for a relationship or any commitment" he thinks I'm acting crazy. But when I was on there I had guys whose profiles said that who just wanted sex.
We never do ANYTHING together. The last time we did anything was about a month ago. I'm really resenting the fact that he drops everything for his friends and ALWAYS has enough money to go out with them but the most he's done with me is play tennis in the past few weeks. If I say anything he just tells me "oh things will get better" but I'm really getting restless and lonely.
I don't want to nag, and I can't really beg him to set some time for me since we're always together but the time isn't quality time it's just empty.
And yet, he tells me he loves me constantly, is always talking about the future and all these things I've always wanted a boyfriend to talk about with me. How do I overlook these things, he has helped me through a whole lot, got me a promise ring but I'm still so unsatisfied. I don't want to appear ungrateful and although I could just leave and stay with my parents or a possibly a friend I still feel like he has potential and don't want to just leave. I don't really know if I'm being ridiculous....