ex acting weird....

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Registered: 11-21-2010
ex acting weird....
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Mon, 11-22-2010 - 9:57pm

Me and my ex broke up like 3 months ago after 6 years of dating....we were both each other first everything...he started dating another chick a month ago after I told him I wasnt going to be his FWB and that he should move one......I meant to get to know people and date...not get into a full fledged relationship the next day...I was devasted....but anyway....

Last week he messages me on facebook trying to see how I was doing....Im like ok.....then the next day he calls me...."Hey I was wondering if you wanted my company discount for your cell phone bill since you are with AT&T." Im thinking why dont you give it to your gf?....he then spends 1.5 hour complaining about how he is in a slump with life....and how his gf is getting on his nerves and how she is talking about marriage after 3 weeks..."She doesnt even know me! SHe only knows the outer mold of me!"...and he talks about how they havent even had sex yet and how she is getting on his nerves and he is thinking about breaking up with her...."I try to think about the bad times in our relationship...but all I can think about are the good times...I dont even know why I got into a relationship in the first place"...His parents dont want to meet her or talk about her....everyone thinks he is an idiot...hes started smoking again because of his stress and all the while he sees me losing weight and looking great and doing well....its kinda funny in a way.....

Is he reconsidering getting back with me? Or is he just looking for sympathy...he is right, I do know and understand him better than anyone else.....but I know if it was the other way around...he would probably think i was pathetic for calling him and whining about my life...and offering him gifts.....which I havent done...I have to left him alone since weve broken up...eventhough I am still going through the "loss of first love" stage...

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Registered: 05-18-2009
Tue, 11-23-2010 - 4:04pm

Wow. Honestly tang90, if I had an ex who was badmouthing his new girl like this, I'd feel really lucky to be rid of him.

Yes he's reconsidering getting back with you and he's doing that by trying to make you feel sorry for him. I think he is the pathetic one. Why are you still talking? If you're broken up then you should be moving on separately with no contact. Maybe you need to reiterate that to him. You seem to be noticing improvements in your life even though you miss him - And that feeling of missing him (or rather, missing the relationship) will go away over time. It's okay to still feel that loss, you're grieving the death of a long relationship.

He's being very selfish right now.