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Registered: 03-26-2003
For..cl-cbreville
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Thu, 04-03-2003 - 8:32pm
Well i tlkaed to him yuesterday. It didnt go as well as i would have liked it to , but he knows my name now!! He came into the library yuesterday and my mom was in there with me because she was helping me out. He came in there with a few friends and his one of his friends asked if he could take out a movie, and my mom said yah sure, just ask Crystal to write your name down one the list. They were just browsing and i asked them if they knew my name forgetting my mom had already told them. Tony *my crush* said yah your mom already told us. I didnt say anything for like the next 5 minutes cause i felt like such an idiot!! So anyways..He came back there another time with his friends sister and i asked if she was new to the church, and she said no she was just visiting. She told me she was Meninight and Tony butted in telling me he also used to be too. I made this stupid joke asking "Oh is that where you guys kill your own food, and have the beards and live in the middle of no where?" THEN I WAS LIKE WHAT DID I JUST SAY? I FELT SO STUPID!!! He probably thinks i am a RETARD!!!!! He was like no were not Omish..I COULD HAVE DIED! Then she told me they live on their own and live in houses. She was making me look MORE stupid infront of him! I kept asking questions but it looked like he wanted to leave because he kept moving closer and closer to the door,and then i looked away and he left with her. I pictured him to be a little more talkative because i see him with the people he does know like his parents,his friends,his brothers grilfriend, and he is really talkative. But when he comes around me he seems really shy/closed up. What does this mean? Could it mean hes not interested? Or he is still alittle shy to be more agressive? I dont know what else to do. I dont think he knows im quite interested in him. One of his friends *a girl who is 18 and married to one of his best friends told my mom she saw me glancing at him abit,but she she was sitting behind me so of course she is going to when my head moves right? I really am sure he doesnt notice THAT much or even at all though* My sister and my friends said i might intimidate him alittle so thats why hes alittle more reserved. He is a christian boy so i dont expect him to jump all over me,but i expect him to be a little more flirtatious. Now that the ice is broken and we know a little more about eachother, i can say hi everyone once in awhile. Should i be more agressive? and if so what should i do? I dont want to give up quite yet,but i dont know if i should keep trying..What do you think i should do? and what signals do you think he is giving me?

Hope you can give me some great advice like last time.

Crystal
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Registered: 03-25-2003
Thu, 04-03-2003 - 11:28pm
I use to clam up around the girls that I liked...and anybody who knows me knows that I am not the clam up kind...I didn't want to come right out and say something that might end up embarrassing for both, so I stared from afar, asked questions about the girl or girls to their friends, and somehow tried to show up at places where they were at out of the slight chance we might end up talking.

It sounds like he is acting the same way. Now that you know a little more about him, perhaps asking him, "you said you use to be Menanite...what made you change?" would get him to talk quite a bit about things. Plus is shows him you listened and remembered what he said.

I don't think you said or did anything that made you look stupid in any way. I'd have asked the same questions...who knows everything anyway? If his interest in you is based only on your depth of knowledge about Menenites, he isn't the one for you.

Do you have any such social event that you will be going to that you could tell him about so that he, being relatively new, would be interested in going to? Letting him know about it without right out asking him to go with you would be a friendly gesture which will leave him thinking about you (was she just being friendly, or is she interested).

Asking a number of other questions such as: When is his birthday, what sign is that, does he pay attention to what they say that means, what does he want to do when he gets older, what does he think about the war, does he do any volunteer work, what types of things does he really care about, what kind of music does he listen to, ...etc. I personally think you learn a lot about someone from the type of music they listen to...it's a subject that can create a lot of discussion.

So I think he's interested, I think you can do a few things to learn more about him and to subtely show him that you might be interested in him.

Curtis

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 04-03-2003 - 11:45pm
Well its refreshing to know that he might be the clam up kind. There isnt very many people in our church, about 25, and they are all under the age of 10 or above the age of 35. There is a few teenagers now. But before he came there was 3 including me. They were brother and sister. The girl i dont get along with and she is 17. The brother is 20 and he is sooooo shy and doesnt talk to ANYONE!! So no one in that church knows me really well except my parents and he wouldnt ask them! lol So asking anyone about me is out of the question.. :( I asked him what made him change and he said because they didnt have the truth. I dont really know about any social gatherings. We will be spending quite a bit of time at church. They are starting to have church, Friday,and Saturday night. We already go twice on Sunday and once on Wednesday night too. So we will see alot of eachother there, and im sure we will talk more, because they more we are around eachother, the more we will be less nervous right? Our religion doesnt believe in signs, so that was easy! haha He wants to be a pastor when he grows up...and he listens to Christian music,im pretty sure..about 99.9%. Oh and that girl..She is interested. You can just tell! She was following him around everywhere. Grr that makes me mad! haha But no biggy! She doesnt even live here! She lives in another province! hehe :)

Crystal