I think men and women can be platonic friends.
“Every time you smile at someone, it is an action of love, a gift to that person, a beautiful thing.” Mother Teresa
Coconut is right on the money. You don't want him as a friend, you want him as a boyfriend. Therefore, being just friends won't work.
>>was I right or wrong to be upset with him for having platonic girl friends?<<
Given that you weren't in a committed relationship with him, you were absolutely wrong in getting upset that he has female platonic friends. Even if you WERE in a committed relationship, it's still OK for him to have casual female friends as long as he has appropriate boundaries with them.
>>"so you have a choice between not being intimate with me and caring about my feelings and you chose not to be intimate with me." He got upset and left.<<
I'm not surprised he got upset and left. You've twisted this argument very much to make him the bad guy. In reality, his choice was "be intimate with Tewey and not be with platonic female friends at parties" or "not be intimate with Tewey". Given that you and he are not an item, you were behaving quite unreasonably.
>>I explained that I thought conflict was inevitable, and always someone is in the wrong where there's conflict. <<
Why must somebody be in the wrong if there's conflict? Why can't the couple agree to disagree and respect each other's opinions? It's only 'right fighters' who must have a win/lose argument.
I do believe men and women can be platonic friends but I agree with the others in this case, I doubt a friendship is going to work out.
Please listen to coconut.
I agree that women and men CAN be platonic friends, given the right circumstances, but it doesn't apply here.
You should be honest with yourself about what you ultimately want. Fooling yourself is only going to be a waste of your own time and heartache. If you can't get what you want by being direct and straightforward, it's not usually worth striving for.
Hey, thanks for your responses.
Just because he has high sexual tension with you doesn't mean he wants an actual relationship with you, regardless of what you want.