General Question About Men
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|Tue, 04-29-2003 - 11:14am|
For instance, when you get home each day do you tell your wife/SO what happened at work (i.e. it was super busy b/c an emergency project came up that had to be resolved by 5) or since the project had been resolved would you just simply tell her the day was fine? If she says something similar do you ask her details of what happened or just go on to the next subject? Do you and your wife/SO ever have extensive discussions on how you feel about events entirely outside your relationship? (I.E. if your best friend decided to divorce his wife, would you simply say to your wife/so "BF is leaving his wife" or would you mention it and then if your wife/SO asked, continue in a discussion/debate of whether you thought he was making a good decision?
I guess the reason I ask ,is I generally enjoy discussing the "ins & outs", and "why and why nots" of many questions or hearing the details of someone's day b/c I think it helps me to get to know a person better and feel more connected to them--yet many of the men I have dated never seem to want to delve below the "surface" of things and discuss why they think what they do or what they've done in detail, they rather just say "this is what I think" and move on to the next topic--i.e. a typical conversation would be:
Me: "God work was awful today, our new client called pitching a fit about the filing deadline we missed."
Him: "That sucks, I hate it when clients get that way. So what should we do for dinner?"
On the other hand, if he had made the same comment to me, I'd respond by asking more questions, for instance--"why did the company miss the deadline?," or "is the client always that unreasonable?" or "how did Bob (your boss) respond?" etc. --since I don't see the comment as an indication of a problem, I'm not trying to solve the problem, just get more details of the situation so I can be more familiar with what my BF is dealing with at work.
However, as the pattern goes, generally the men I meet seem less interested in learning the ins and outs of why things are what they are or of discussing things in any sort of "detail". So, I'm starting to wonder if that truly is a gender difference or more the type of man I seem to be attracting? Are there men out there would spend a significant amount of time conversing about such things with their wifes/SO's or are men as a gender much happier to stick to the facts and not discuss topics at length?? Thanks in advance for answering!