Gf material - is it a myth?

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Registered: 02-22-2011
Gf material - is it a myth?
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Mon, 07-18-2011 - 12:02pm
Ok, I totally understand that if a woman puts out on the 3rd date & the man really likes her, then he's not gonna lose any respect for her. But what if the 3rd "date" in 2 weeks was actually a booty call- he asked u to come & hang out at 1am after bar? This guy hadn't made any sexual advances on me up til then- so I was unsuspecting. I went over, as soon as we started making out & he asked if I wanted to go upstairs I said it was too soon, didn't do anything to lead him on beyond that point, we just made out for hours. then he didn't want me to leave even tho he could c I wasn't putting out - just wanted to fall asleep in my arms which we did. Has kept in touch w me over text since then, not very much but honestly we never ever talked much in first place. Hed told me before we even went out that the next 6 weeks of work were gonna be ridiculous (work 7 days/wk) bc of deadlines,'so I wonder if he would b interested in future and that's y he's not completely blowing me off now. But my main question is- I know if u don't put out by 3rd date u may lose the guy./. but in my case, since it smelled a lot like booty call and he hadn't bothered to make it a real planned 3rd "date"... is it possible a "good" guy would say hmm, so she didnt put out on a booty call, she must think she deserves more than that, & respect me and maybe see me as gf material once they're ready?
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Registered: 11-11-1999
Mon, 07-18-2011 - 5:03pm

In my opinion, you are over analyzing things. I slept with my late wife on our first date, we were together for 25 years and married for 23. For me, if there is something there that clicks it doesn't matter what date it happens on. Although, I'm 61 and maybe young men see things differently today.

dablacksox


Cynic: a blackguard whose faulty vision sees things as they are, not as they ought to be.---Ambrose Bierce, The Devil's Dictionary.

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Registered: 02-22-2011
Mon, 07-18-2011 - 5:24pm
But u miss the point this was a booty call. He'd made zero effort to plan a date here
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Registered: 02-14-2007
Mon, 07-18-2011 - 5:34pm

Oh - I'd be surprised if this wasn't just for sex.

Denise

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Registered: 02-22-2011
Mon, 07-18-2011 - 5:41pm
But it's odd that he'd BC me / drop me for not putting out bc the first 2 times we got together he did absolutely nothing sexual, hand holding but barely even kissed. What kind of agenda is that, be innocent for 2 dates then call me over late after bar and expect me to bang u when I get there?
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Registered: 11-06-2008
Mon, 07-18-2011 - 10:52pm

First you need to realize relationships and sex are 2 different things...doesnt matter when you put out. 2nd If you want a relationship i would wait a while before having sex. Date 3 rule...who the hell made that up ..oh wait some guy that wanted to get in some girls pants. Serioulsy you believe that crap.... stop... if a guy likes you he will wait but he will like you more for being you and not following some BS dating rule.

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Tue, 07-19-2011 - 2:54pm

Hi.

dragowoman