Girl friend or girlfriend?

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Registered: 04-07-2003
Girl friend or girlfriend?
Fri, 04-18-2003 - 1:53pm
How exactly can you tell when a girl that often hangs out with a guy is his girl friend or girlfriend? I'm definitely confused over this type of situation right now. This guy who seems to light up around me and is pretty flirty also has this girl that he hangs out with a lot. I've been around him both with and without her, as well as around other girls. He definitely pays attention to me when I come into a room, in a way that is different from this maybe-friend. She's often pretty quiet when I'm around, and that in turn makes me too shy to really talk to her much when all three of us are together. Sometimes I just feel uncomfortable around her. They're not flirty or anything, and she doesn't try to get his attention when I'm around-I really thought they were strictly platonic, except for the fact that they spend so much time together. Maybe she just feels so secure in the fact that he is hers that she doesn't feel the need to assert that around me, or she just doesn't see me as a threat? I guess I just worry if I should feel uncomfortable or like I'm treading in some one else's territory. So even if none of you can figure this out for me, please give me some clues for these types of situations in general!