Giving "The Title"

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Registered: 07-30-2008
Giving "The Title"
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Mon, 02-01-2010 - 2:08pm

So, I've been dating this guy for 2 months, and things are going really great. I really hadn't given much talk to the whole bf/gf thing until he started bringing it up two weeks ago. He brought it up once, kind of just letting me know it was on the table and it was quickly dropped. Until the next weekend and since then, he's brought it up multiple times during conversations and just in general. It's hard for me to explain exactly how it happens but in so few terms it's like he brings it up, we talk about it, he turns it into a joke and then backtracks. It's like "hey, we should be bf/gf, but hmm...maybe I'm not quite ready...maybe in 6 months." He even told me he

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Registered: 05-18-2009
Mon, 02-01-2010 - 3:23pm

He's conflicted about this. That's why he's acting wishy-washy about what he wants. He's also putting a little too much emphasis on just a word. It's really not important.

Unless you have known one another a lot longer, eight weeks is not usually long enough to know if you really want to be in a "serious relationship" with someone. If he's conflicted over this right now, then instead of focusing on labels he needs to focus on getting to know you. If I were you, I'd relay to him that at this point you're not dating other people, but want to get to know him better before putting labels on the relationship you have.