is going down really that bad?

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Registered: 12-18-2009
is going down really that bad?
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Tue, 04-13-2010 - 7:32pm
My fiance has only given oral a few times and he says it tastes bad so he doesn't really want to do it. Is there something to do to make it taste better? I tried to take a shower right before but obviously that didn't help. I bought some flavored lube but he hasn't even tried it. Is it really that bad or are some people just not into it and i should give up on the whole deal? He likes me going down on him but he doesn't really ask me to and normally only leaves me down there a few minutes before he is ready to .... Is there anything I can do that would make it better? or just give up?
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Registered: 10-18-2001
Tue, 04-13-2010 - 11:54pm
Don't forget that there are two people involved too. Sometimes, no matter what YOU do, you can't please all the people all the time. Your fiance may be one of those guys that just can't do it for one reason or another.


Having said that, provided you're clean and freshly washed and even willing to provide some flavoured lube, then I don't think that he's coming to the party like he could. It's not like going down on you is a death sentence - but I have to be careful saying that because if we were talking about BJ's,.... well, that could become quite the debate over how far I should push someone to do something that they say they don't like doing...


When you said "I tried to take a shower right before but obviously that didn't help.", what was his reaction? What did he say? I think that if you could talk to him about it some more you might be able to find out why he doesnt like it. At least then you'll be able to put the matter to rest in your own mind if its something that you can't alter like washing just prior, or trimming pubic hair or something. I can be pretty fussy about her being trimmed and freshly washed because I DO find her taste too strong otherwise. But provided I've got that - trimmed and fresh - then I have no problem at all and love it.
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Registered: 12-18-2009
Wed, 04-14-2010 - 12:11am
I keep trimmed up and such the way he likes it so it's not that. But he's the most considerate man ever so it doesn't make sense that he just doesn't care. The only time I asked about it he said he doesn't really like how it tastes but again that doesn't seem like it because he hasnt exactly made any moves on trying the lube. I don't really understand it but I hate to bring it up again because I don't want him to feel like I'm pushing something on him he doesn't feel comfortable with. I've been in that sitution with someone else and REALLY don't want to do it myself
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Registered: 01-04-2006
Wed, 04-14-2010 - 7:51am

"My fiance has only given oral a few times and he says it tastes bad so he doesn't really want to do it. Is there something to do to make it taste better? I tried to take a shower right before but obviously that didn't help. I bought some flavored lube but he hasn't even tried it. Is it really that bad or are some people just not into it and i should give up on the whole deal? He likes me going down on him but he doesn't really ask me to and normally only leaves me down there a few minutes before he is ready to .... Is there anything I can do that would make it better? or just give up?


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Basically he just not into it.

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Registered: 05-18-2009
Wed, 04-14-2010 - 10:16am

At this point I'd probably give up, but I wouldn't be happy about it and I'd feel pretty badly about myself.

As for flavored lube... I don't like the taste of eggs, and I'm not going to like eggs any better by putting ketchup on them. Hope you get my drift.

Has he ever enjoyed giving oral to a woman?

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Registered: 11-29-2006
Wed, 04-14-2010 - 10:31am

Hi luven and welcome to the board. He may just not like it, but here's a link that may help: Overcoming His Aversion to Oral Sex


You may also try posting this to one of our sex-related boards, such as Make Him Moan or Oral Sex. You can find a complete listing of our sex boards here.



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Registered: 12-18-2009
Wed, 04-14-2010 - 1:11pm
Lol no he never has enjoyed it but i get what you mean about the ketchup lol. I'd never thought of it that way I guess.
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Registered: 04-10-2010
Wed, 04-14-2010 - 5:32pm

You didn't say how old you were but how I read it was maybe he is inexperienced and lacks confidence.

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Registered: 06-22-2006
Thu, 04-15-2010 - 12:46pm

Does he say he doesn't like oral in general or that he didn't like the taste of *you* the few times he did go down on you?

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Registered: 04-10-2010
Fri, 04-16-2010 - 5:50am

Let us know how it goes.




Edited 4/17/2010 5:20 pm ET by coconut2010
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Sat, 04-17-2010 - 4:53pm