Guy Friend Texting

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Registered: 06-21-2009
Guy Friend Texting
Sat, 09-18-2010 - 9:42pm

Out of the

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Registered: 09-23-2009
Sun, 09-19-2010 - 4:28pm

Instead of wondering what the man is thinking, why don't you worry about what you're thinking? Do you like him enough to date him? If so, you need to set the rules, not him, and see if he meets your needs in a potential boyfriend. If you don't like unending texts with him, ignore his texts, and if he's interested enough, he'll call you to see what's up. If he asks you out again, and it's not clear if he wants a casual booty call type of relationship, or wants to date to see if you two would be compatible enough to become a couple, then ask him what he's interested in or looking for. It's not up to you to guess and waste your time.

If he's playing with you and not being clear,

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Registered: 09-06-2010
Sun, 09-19-2010 - 8:00pm

Continued texting sounds like interest to me. Can you perhaps let him know in a subtle way that another date would be welcome?

Edited 10/2/2010 10:19 pm ET by darling.carly
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Mon, 09-20-2010 - 8:50am

I have no idea what he could be thinking. What kind of texts is he sending you? Next time he sends one, tell him to call you and actually talk in person.

Are you thinking he's BF material?

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Registered: 05-18-2009
Mon, 09-20-2010 - 9:11am

He sounds like he's clearly interested in you, and he enjoys showing his affection by texting. Some people are like that.

I don't think a week is a long time to go without having another date yet, maybe he will ask you out again when he comes up with something interesting to do? I hope you let him know that you enjoyed the date and are looking forward to the next one.

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Registered: 04-21-2008
Mon, 09-20-2010 - 11:47am

Maybe he's just a really busy guy and hasn't had the time to call or hang out since your last date?

Why not ask him to go out this time? ;)


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Registered: 08-31-2009
Mon, 09-20-2010 - 2:50pm

"He sounds like he's clearly interested in you, and he enjoys showing his affection by texting. Some people are like that."

My boyfriend was like that when we first met. Between the first night we met at a bar and our first date a week or so later, we texted several times a day/night (at one point he actually asked me if he was bugging me. LOL I said, "Of course not!"). We still text/talk every day, sometimes several times a day. We actually talk on the phone more often now, but at first, it was mostly texting. Some people are texters, and some people are talkers. You just have to let him know you prefer talking if that's what you would rather do.

You won't really know until this plays out a little more what his intentions are. It did take about 3 days after the night we met for my boyfriend to ask me out. (But we texted back and forth regularly in those 3 days). Unfortunately, though, you really can't tell for sure if he IS interested in you unless you guys go out on some dates.

Edited 9/20/2010 2:51 pm ET by cameragirl78