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|Thu, 04-10-2003 - 3:35pm|
Both of us are separated, and getting divorces, but his is much more complex, he's been separated 2 years and has a son. Well the son and the soon to be ex-wife became quite a hitch in our "early relationship". He would cancel plans with me on a dime, if his wife would call to ask him to take his son. I didn't mind at first, but then realized quickly how I would never be as important to him as his son and that is hard as a woman (with no kids) to deal with. Yet he claims I was the most important person in his life...and he never met someone he cared for as much as me.
Low and behold after some time we decided to stop dating. It was extremely difficult on both of us. There were other issues, me struggling to get my divorce, etc. Anyway, now that we aren't dating...I really miss him. I know we could have worked out if it wasn't for all the "crap" in the middle out of our control. But now that we stopped dating, he rarely talks to me. He claims he wants to be my friend...but I'm confused. Some days he'll talk to me, other days he won't. Some days he'll IM me (after work) and then he won't even say a word to me in person. Monday he drove me to my appt. after work (I'm without a car for a few weeks) and he offered (without me asking) to drive me the next few weeks until I have my car again.
So I'm so confused. I mean, he's 35 and I'm 28. When do the games stop? Is it a game? I feel like I lost my best friend, but I don't know how to talk to him. I really want to suggest dating again, but much slower, but my gut says I should wait for him to suggest that.
So I need some guy advice. Why on Earth is he so confusing? Does he want friendship, more or just to be civil and I'm just lost?
I'm on edge...I want to send him an email to ask if we have a chance in the future, but again, I'm not sure how wise that would be. I couldn't bare for it to get worse.