guys-long distance

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Registered: 04-10-2008
guys-long distance
Thu, 06-24-2010 - 11:37am

I'll try and keep this short, but I'm looking for advice on how guys deal with a long distance relationship.

Scott & I met 5 years ago and have run into eachother on occasion through friends but always lost touch because we live in towns 6 hrs apart. We recently reunited at a wedding be both stood up in and started talking regularly. He confessed that he had liked me since the day he met me, and kicked himself for never saying anything before. Anyway, we arranged a visit over memorial weekend which was fabulous and then I travelled to his town last weekend, which was even better. He's a truly great guy, hardworking, very active outdoorsman. This past weekend he asked me if he could call me his girlfriend, and that's how I was introduced to everyone all weekend.

He made it known from the beginning that he wants this to work, regardless of the distance. The best part about him is he always does what he says he's going to do whether it's calling me or anything. So his actions and words speak volumes that this could become very serious.

What my real question is, even though it's only been a couple months, when do you start talking about moving closer and do I let him bring it up? I would be willing to move to his town, just because I despise the town I live in - provided I saved up enough money and had a job lined up. And his town is closer to where I actually grew up. So I guess I just want insight into a guys head relating to long distance relationships.


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Registered: 05-04-2007
Fri, 06-25-2010 - 12:12pm

Everyone is going to do it differently

There is nothing but his specific mindset to find out about.

The important part is the talking about it. Just start the discussion now. It's not a plan, there would be no timelines to meet. But find out how you both see it.

Is there work for you there, is there a large difference in rental prices, Maybe he'd send you copies of rental ads that are in the "good" parts of town, so you don't go in guessing.

The conversation isn't unexpected, ONE of you would have to move sooner or later. And since you'd already be willing to move, you might as well mention that.

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