Guys Y is Dinner SO Important?

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Guys Y is Dinner SO Important?
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Fri, 02-05-2010 - 5:06am

My guy cooks.

Missy

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Registered: 05-18-2009
Fri, 02-05-2010 - 9:17am
I've never seen men in general do this. My boyfriend can go days without eating so much as a bunch of chips for dinner whereas I am the one to always want some kind of plan about what we're going to do for dinner. Some peoples' lives revolve greatly around food, usually due to how they were brought up. It's not just men.
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Fri, 02-05-2010 - 9:36am

Mine does the cooking also (it's awesome isn't it, lol)


Cooking is how he shows he cares. (It is also his job.) He wants to be recognized & feels best when people go nuts for the food.


We even gave food for Christmas. We wanted people to feel happy & nurished.


He jokes that if he doesn't get home to make me dinner, I'll beat him.


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Fri, 02-05-2010 - 2:11pm

H and I only eat together on Saturday, he eats dinner at work


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Registered: 12-22-2007
Fri, 02-05-2010 - 5:42pm

Misssy, I agree this isn't a 'man' thing. Rather, it's a 'food' thing.

Some people (men and women) just aren't 'foodies'. Certainly not those who are happy with just a bagel or cereal.

Me? I'm beside myself with excitement because a gourmet food suppliers is opening up two blocks from here. Hubby and I bonded over food when we were dating and my kitchen skills still thrill. You know how some women go weak at shoes or purses? Well, I go weak at a cookbook.

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Registered: 12-28-2007
Sat, 02-06-2010 - 6:55am

I really thought I would get more agreement that MEN are focused on FOOD.


It seems that all my girlfriends are on board with my impression....I was visiting a girlfriend the other night and her sister was there and the sisters husband called (who can cook for himself also).....asking her what was for dinner!

Missy
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Registered: 05-18-2009
Sat, 02-06-2010 - 7:40am
Maybe it's the norm for your culture wherever you live?
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Sat, 02-06-2010 - 11:42am

I know my partner finds it important that we eat meals together. He gets a bit annoyed if we don`t eat the same thing at the same time. It`s a bonding time for us, probably because our family`s stressed dinner time as a time to be together as a family.

The delicious and satisfying food is also a reason to look forward to a shared meal.

I think by complaining to your partner about his preference to eat dinner with you, you are pushing him away and saying you don`t want to be "family".

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Registered: 12-22-2007
Sat, 02-06-2010 - 5:58pm

>> She was relaxing with US and then she had to leave to go to the market to get something for dinner because she didn't want a cranky husband.<<

This example ISN'T about food. Rather, it's about a man who thinks his wife is his slave. There are plenty of food lovers who don't throw a hissy fit when they are not catered for hand and foot. If this was purely a food issue, he'd just cook for himself.

I wonder if he'd also get cranky if his washing wasn't done for him too.

In any reasonable relationship, the wife would have said "hon, I'm going to be a bit late....you'll have to fix something for yourself" and he would have been fine with it.

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Registered: 12-28-2007
Sat, 02-06-2010 - 10:07pm

Yea, I think it is

Missy
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Registered: 12-22-2007
Sat, 02-06-2010 - 10:48pm

And your partner's approach reflects the research done on this topic.

According to the research, a family who eats together has better communication, better bonding and healthier eating habits than those who don't.

I'm not putting links to my comments because there's so much supportive information out there. Just Google 'families eating together' and you'll get page after page of supporting research.

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